the reading thing in called Irlen syndrome my mum thought i had it. i don't think i do i just liked wearing my pink sun glasses when i was reading
I have that... I have special software and overlays and stuff to help me read, it can be annoying. It's often co-morbid with dyslexia (which I also have - yes my brain is useless) and so people often think that the coloured paper thing is a dyslexic trait but in reality it is a seperate disorder
I have that... I have special software and overlays and stuff to help me read, it can be annoying. It's often co-morbid with dyslexia (which I also have - yes my brain is useless) and so people often think that the coloured paper thing is a dyslexic trait but in reality it is a seperate disorder
yeah i have dyslexia. And your brain isnt useless it's just wired different
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hi julie 'm 26 i love hugs i have people in my head and they will talk to u. they will behave and they wont hurt u they are...
owen nearly 10 and doesnt like being touched
amy 11 quiet and shy
kate 15 has lotsa anger but is nice
so basically i'm that weirdo who talks to herself...hi...
more meant that the whole having irling, dyslexia, aspergers AND mental health issues is a lot for one brain lol , sometimes it certainly feels like it's useless or broken or something
I have been recently diognised. I have high functioning autism.
Do any of you have high functioning autism and how do you deal with it.
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“The only way that we can live is if we grow. The only way we can grow is if we change. The only way we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we are exposed is if we throw ourselves into the open.”
got a few quick questions: do others find that stress makes some stuff worse? Like the being unable to cope with change in routine thing and the sensory overloads happenin more, and stuff? And doesn't anyone know how to lessen the effect of this?
I am very stressed at the moment and as such got the the point where I can't even look my boyfriend in the face half the time... and he is one of the few people I can usually manage true eye contact with... and it's effecting friendships as once a week I go to a social thing but due to peoples work shifts the day keeps changing resulting in me having a bit of a thing and people getting annoyed...
I find eye contact and also people standing to close to me and touching me to intimidating. I have autism.
“The only way that we can live is if we grow. The only way we can grow is if we change. The only way we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we are exposed is if we throw ourselves into the open.”
Stress for me amplifies everything that my Asperger's affects. In the past and now, if i'm calmish, I try to think logically about it, so it eventually makes sense in my brain and slowly becomes a norm.
got a few quick questions: do others find that stress makes some stuff worse? Like the being unable to cope with change in routine thing and the sensory overloads happenin more, and stuff? And doesn't anyone know how to lessen the effect of this?
I am very stressed at the moment and as such got the the point where I can't even look my boyfriend in the face half the time... and he is one of the few people I can usually manage true eye contact with... and it's effecting friendships as once a week I go to a social thing but due to peoples work shifts the day keeps changing resulting in me having a bit of a thing and people getting annoyed...
Hi. I'm George and i'm new to this sub-thread. I have been through some training to befriend people on the spectrum. However i had to stop when they the aspergers society decided i have aspergers myself (still not diagnosed thought). And so i feel that i might be in a good position to answer some of your questions.
Stress: yes, in my experience it can make things worse. We were taught that aspergic people need changes to occur slowly to minimize the stress. I hope that the stress will be lower soon. I'm sure that your boyfriend understands that things can get difficult like this. I'm sure he must accept you for who you are.
As for the social group, is it designed for people with aspergers? my old manager would always have the welsh social groups on the same days of the week (once a month) to prevent the stress of change. I hope things will get better in your social group. But maybe something like that would help you as well?
I hope you all stay strong and take better care of yourselves than I have been known to do in real life.
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keep at arms length there's a monster in me that I have trouble controlling occasionally *
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And i promise you there is nothing i won't give to see this (my problems) through
I wish i were a robot, robots memory can be easily wiped out without bad side effects, the emotions can be programmed and the physical damage can be rapaired in such a way no one would know it had happend.
I'm normally very high functioning - to the point where most people wouldn't really think there's anything up with me unless they already know about aspergers or i told them. When I'm under stress - it all builds up (during this I will normally be doing pretty well) and then comes out in one giant rush (I don't even have any notice of when this will happen). The result: I shut down totally. I normally have a breakdown/tantrum where I'm crying, repeating myself over and over and over with no control, rocking, repetitive movements, and various self harm behavior as well as panic attacks where I can't breathe. This can last for hours and typically happens about once every 2-3 months. Smaller events happen weekly depending on the level of stress. It's humiliating but I have no control when it's going on, and no warning of when it will happen.
Stress makes things worse for anyone - it comes out differently for people on the AS.
Stress: yes, in my experience it can make things worse. We were taught that aspergic people need changes to occur slowly to minimize the stress. I hope that the stress will be lower soon. I'm sure that your boyfriend understands that things can get difficult like this. I'm sure he must accept you for who you are.
As for the social group, is it designed for people with aspergers? my old manager would always have the welsh social groups on the same days of the week (once a month) to prevent the stress of change. I hope things will get better in your social group. But maybe something like that would help you as well?
thanks for the reply. MY boyfriend actualy has aspergers too, but it presents in a slightly different way. So I guess it's probably that he does understand, it's just getting frustrating to me as I want to just have a normal brain... just for a bit... to not have to make an effort to "fit in" and to seem normal and everything else... and to be able to get a bloody job, not get turned down because I can't do eye contact so appear to not be listening at interview, or can't shake hands so look rude, or say something wrong to misinterprete something or whatever...
the group isn't an aspergers group, no... just a group of people we know from college (we didn't actually know each other at college but had a lot of friends in common lol). I can understand why they keep changing the day, but at the same time it's messing with both our head and they seem to just think that we are being awkward...
Stress makes me kick up the wood pile next to the shed in my garden, or I scream swear words and then go nonverbal.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
thanks for the reply. MY boyfriend actualy has aspergers too, but it presents in a slightly different way. So I guess it's probably that he does understand, it's just getting frustrating to me as I want to just have a normal brain... just for a bit... to not have to make an effort to "fit in" and to seem normal and everything else... and to be able to get a bloody job, not get turned down because I can't do eye contact so appear to not be listening at interview, or can't shake hands so look rude, or say something wrong to misinterprete something or whatever...
the group isn't an aspergers group, no... just a group of people we know from college (we didn't actually know each other at college but had a lot of friends in common lol). I can understand why they keep changing the day, but at the same time it's messing with both our head and they seem to just think that we are being awkward...
sorry for taking a long time to respond, dealing with stuff. I know what your saying about our condition getting in the way of potential employment, It seems to me that some jobs are able to manage with our quirks better than others. One of my friends has been advising me against changing course to a particular subject and to stay on the computer sciences. What is the industry that your hoping to work for?
I hope that they will stop changing the day of the meetings so that it doesn't mess with your heads any more. Is there a group leader? As talking to them confidentially, you might be able to persuade them to stableise the day.
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Stress makes me kick up the wood pile next to the shed in my garden, or I scream swear words and then go nonverbal.
Your not alone. My Ex used to be the same way (well the metal thing that holds the coal rather than wood). I don't know if there's any breathing exercises or thought exercises you can use to help you cope with the stress. When i get stressed i also go non verbal. Although I kinda feel comfortable not speaking (as long as i can type or text). In fact I've not spoken in over 72 hours (although that might just be due to not having anyone to talk to).
I hope you all stay strong and take better care of yourselves than I have been known to do in real life.
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Originally Posted by safe enough distance away
keep at arms length there's a monster in me that I have trouble controlling occasionally *
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Originally Posted by Full metal alchemist
And i promise you there is nothing i won't give to see this (my problems) through
I wish i were a robot, robots memory can be easily wiped out without bad side effects, the emotions can be programmed and the physical damage can be rapaired in such a way no one would know it had happend.
I was a teacher, but I left that career as I basically couldn't cope with it, and the whole not being able to read body language or communicate that well thing made teaching tricky... I am now training to be a joiner, but in the meantime am willing to try most jobs, problem seems to be getting through interview, once I get a job I am usually either fine with it, or I breakdown within a few weeks, but either way at least I got given a chance... trying for labouring/groundskeeping jobs at the moment, I was a groundskeeper while at uni and I enjoyed doing that, but as long as a job has set hours every week I am applying regardless of sector as I just hate unemployment... unemployment has no structure or routine to it and it's driving me a little nuts
I'm taking a year out of university due to my OCD and psychotic symptoms having been very bad this last academic year, so I couldn't take anything in. I'm going to do this year's exams in 2014.
The lack of structure is really making me agitated.
I make timetables for every day, but the other people in this supported housing keep disturbing it. Several times I have shouted at them and then gone and kicked up the wood and yelled swear words (although the neighbours did complain about me once).
I am working towards moving into a flat of my own, that would be bliss, to be allowed to isolate myself more.
I am going to do voluntary research work at my dad's old office (I know some of the staff there well), starting September. However it worries me as my autism makes me behave "oddly". I don't want to embarrass myself unintentionally.
Living here is extremely stressful.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
I am currently living in a caravan on my boyfriends parents driveway :/ it is very unfun... and living essentially with his parents is also unfun... he has aspergers and OCD so you'd think they would be able to cope with and understand such things, but they are constantly knocking routines out of order and MOVING STUFF... I hate it when people move my stuff, especially when they fail to tell me... We move into our own house in a few weeks though :D then will just be a case of sinking up our routines properly... which could be interesting... at least we are going to have very organised and neat house and organised life I guess lol
I hate it when people touch my things too. I hope you get a place of your own soon that you will enjoy and feel comfortable in.
My bedroom is very tidy, but cluttered as I have one room to store all of my stuff in.
I'm going to ask about moving out sooner.
I just want to be alone.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
Just a auggestion, ask your friend (assuming he knows) to just subtly tell your other flatmates about your "suspected" autism and hopefully they might be a bit more understang
anyone know of anyways to not totally freak out when routine is broken? It's really annoying as I logically know that half my routines and issues are silly and make no logical sense, but at the same time if they go out of order or timings I majorly freak out and it's just not convenient or pleasent and I am getting sick of it and getting sick of ****ing people off with it and sick of just the whole aspergers thing
I hope it's okay if I post here but I just read through the whole thread and had to say something :) I personally don't have autism but I work with teenagers with severe autism and challenging behaviours so I understand where all of you are coming from. Most of the teenagers I work with are non-verbal so it is tricky at first to understand why they behave the way they do but after working with them for as long as I have it becomes easier. The teenagers are mainly all on the severe end of the spectrum but there are some with PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), aspergers and SMD (sensory modulation disorder) as well as autism.
I absolutely adore working with these teenagers, they can be very challenging at times (I've been hit, slapped, bit and had my hair pulled) but I know that it isn't their fault.
tada magic i dunno how i got this -------> Í
hi julie 'm 26 i love hugs i have people in my head and they will talk to u. they will behave and they wont hurt u they are...
owen nearly 10 and doesnt like being touched
amy 11 quiet and shy
kate 15 has lotsa anger but is nice
so basically i'm that weirdo who talks to herself...hi...
tada magic i dunno how i got this -------> Í 
