i hate stupid groups on places like facebook that "support" people who have been sexually abused or raped. they piss me off so much like any of the people on the groups know what its like most of them just join it to make themselves feel better and so they feel like there doing there bit.
i hate it and the make stupid posts like
"omg i cant believe people would do this"
**** off you dont give a **** you just want to make yourself feel better
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
if people really wanted to help then theyd do something worthwhile like donate to the rape crisis teams and orginisations like that.
and another thing that pisses me off is when its mention a child had been abuse everyone starts talking about how bad it is but when its not a child people hardly care. i know what its like to be abused as a child and as a near grown up and there both just as bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sorry if this has annoyed anyone dont want it to i just get annoyed.
i know they are a good thing but most people ive seen on the groups only join them because they feel like they're doing their bit to help society because people know there against it but bullocks to me it just shows that they're too lazy to something that might acturly tip the boat.
have you not thought that they might actually care and be trying to help? they're not always making themselves feel better, they're trying to genuinely help. and what you just said is really really harsh. at least they're acknowledging it and trying to do something about it.
i wasnt meaning it to sound harsh but i know other people on here and off here that just find then annoying because nearly all of them havent got a clue and tbh i know definately with me it doesnt help to know that random people think its bad. the one group on there i was talking about and bitching about has people on there saying things like "the age of consent should be lowered so there wouldnt be as meny pedofiles" which is why i was so annoyed and i just needed to vent
you're right. it's a way of showing they have a conscience. but a lot of them will still make jokes about rape.. would they do that if they really understood and wanted to help?
i make jokes about rape.
i make jokes about everything.
*shrug*
it does seem harsh, but at the end of the day, they're people who don't know the severity of the situation. it does annoy me when people act like they know what it's like and stuff, when they don't. but you have to remember, they haven't gone through what you have, and they're misinformed retards who are trying to do good.
people shouldn't make jokes. especially on a support group like that. (ever in my opinion, but some will disagree)
But some people join because they have been affected but may not have money to donate. Or they may have been close friends with someone affected by abuse and while they have not experienced that pain they have been helpless watching someone else experience it and want to show their support. Not everyone has money to donate. Plus, a lot of those groups do give opportunities to donate. And those groups promote a lot of awareness to people who for some reason think abuse doesn't happen that much. Shows them how many people really have been affected, either directly or indirectly. And hopefully maybe a potential pedophile/rapist will see it and see how much it hurts them. Maybe not, but it can't hurt to put as much awareness and support out there as possible.
And there's lots of groups for abuse for adults as well... when I was on facebook (im not now) I saw a lot about domestic violence and rape and emotional abuse and lots of other stuff regarding adults.
So try not to get too upset over it. Most people really want to help. And think about how you would feel if there were NO groups supporting sexual abuse? Don't you think you'd take that as not caring too?
I can see what has upset you though. Its those people on there that are horrible about it all. That go on there to upset people In actual fact there's probably one heck of a lot more people on there that really do care and want to help. But its those minor few that stick out and ruin the group. The age of consent part and the jokes would really affect me, as well as probably a lot of others who have been through it, and people who are indirectly affected. I feel they are good for promting awareness and some give support to those whohave been through it and there tend to be information about it for those that dont understand what its like Plus, people can talk about their experiences and feelings and how it has affected them, which can help the understanding, as well as, giving someone, who hasn't found the support yet, somebody to reach out to. Well this is my opinion anyway
I hope these horrible comments and bitchiness hasn't affected you to much and venting it on here helped.
It's just another way to fill up someone's ego. They think they are doing something about it by joining these Facebook groups but really, they are merely at their computers and ten seconds they go back to chatting to their friends on Facebook or playing the games without considering that they've done nothing to contribute to the foundations of a bored group creator.
My impression is that people join facebook support groups to get just that..support. I have seen many that are like basically little mini-RYLs in nature, whether they be about supporting people with mental illness, sexual abuse survivors, or what have you. But the support ones to me are totally different than donation ones.
On the flip side, I have myself posted on RYL about some things a fbook poster said on a sexual abuse group that rubbed me the wrong way, but at the end of the day, there will always be some ignorant people and we have to ignore them and let it pass.
I think the people that really care about what's happening out in the awful world out there, aren't the people on facebook who join/create these groups. The people who care in the long run are those who are giving their time as social workers or volunteers at places like women's refuges. I know I have been in one and ever since coming out of there, I appreciate the work of real people more than the three minute work of these facebook creators.
Excuse me, I'm sorry you are so angry you have to nitpick my editing choice. I would assume I know what it's there for, seeing as I've been on this site for a decent amount of time. Thank you.
