Triggering (Sexual Abuse) - bad day

[dying_to_be_perfect]

Im struggling today, i dont normally post in here,i avoid it if im honest, but im really struggling today, i had an awful nights sleep, nightmares about what happened and so my mind has been on it all day. and then was talking to a friend at work today and we were telling him he was horrible for not meeting his girlfriend from work (she also works with us but was on a different shift the other night) and it was all jokey and like messing around but we said he should of met her in case she got attacked and she cant hear if people are behind her because she is deaf so it must be awful to walk home alon elike that, and then he said well it would be her fault if she got attacked so its fine.

I would normally get angry at this, but today i just got upset and walked away from the conversation, whilst im fighting it there was a huge part of me thinking yeah its your fault. I feel like such a slag, im working so hard on believing i did nothing wrong but i cant help it.

I dont know why im bothering to write this i just wanted to get it out of my head

xxx

[shadow-light]

these 3 threads: nightmares , sleeping tips , flashback help may be helpful to you



you did nothing wrong, you ddin't provoke anything and it wasn;t your fault...
unfortuanately alot of people blame the victim... but it's just wrong, it's ignorant... this person obviously doesn't know what they;re on about, or is just in the lovely land of thinking it will never happen to anyone in a way that will affect them...

[dying_to_be_perfect]

thank you so much for the links and you response. I feel so stupid for posting and wasting space, just didnt know where to go. its really upsetting me and bringing up all these feelings of guilt and blame. I just feel so ashamed for letting this happen.

xxx

[lydia.]

heya,

please don't feel bad for posting, we're here to help you through whatever is upsetting you. don't push your problems away, if something is upsetting you, it's really important that you talk about it, and get the support that you do deserve.

i can understand how whatg was said upset you, but it's ok to allow yourself to be upset sometimes, don't keep bottling your feelings up.

*squishes*

[Caroline16]

dont feel silly postin on here its good to get everythin out in the open. u r not a slag u did nothing wrong keep workin on it not ur fault because it is not ur fault k please dont blame urself x

[Chrissyann]

I agree with everyone else hun. Nothing of what happened is your fault. He was completely out of order saying that if she got attacked it would be her fault. It is NEVER the victim's fault. No-one asks to be attacked or hurt, so it can never be their fault.

I'm glad you posted here hun, we're here to help. Are you feeling any better today?

*hugs*
Chrissy
xxx

[dying_to_be_perfect]

Thank you for the replies, i am feeling a bit better now thank you all for your support

xxxx