Triggering (Sexual Abuse) - Not very forgiving

Nell · 14-03-2009, 03:45 PM

Hi

I was sexually abused by a preditor when I was twelve until I was thirteen and have had this haunt me from that point forward. I suffer PTSD SI and alcohol and drug abuse since then. I feel that it's so unfair that my life was ruined by this jerk.

I feel I will never be able to move beyound any of this as it's plagued me ever since.

I have been to many therapists etc. and I swear they are more screwed up than me.

Nell

shadow-light · 14-03-2009, 04:30 PM

It does take time, and it does seem unfair that we are basically being punished for their crime, but I promise that you won't be struggling with this forever.

why do youthink that the therapy didn't work for you? There are several different types, maybe it just wasn't te right one for you?

Louise · 14-03-2009, 04:34 PM

thinking about you. i am only a pm away. xxx

Nell · 14-03-2009, 04:35 PM

It appears that one of the requirments to being a therapist is you must be a little screwed up yourself. I have been to at least twelve of them, psychiatrists as well. I was abused many years ago and I have only had deeper issues with it, it isn't getting better only worse. I have the scars to prove it.

Popple · 05-06-2009, 06:28 PM

I am sorry you had to go through that, sometimes it does take quite a while to find a therapist who you click with but please don't give up on it because you deserve to get the right help for you and sometimes things have to get worse before they get better especially if you are dealing with such painful things because it means going through a lot of difficult thoughts and emotions.
Take care of yourself love
x

Stellata · 05-06-2009, 06:34 PM

Therapy with abuse survivors can be complex, as we can get caught into complex re-traumatisation stuff in relationships. Therapists need to be well trained and able to have in depth insight and ability to contain very raw and dark emotions.
There are good therapists out there. I promise.
It might be worth searching for a therapist that specialises in trauma issues.
Also, perhaps you can tell us some of what happened in the therapy you've had so far? That can help us have the perspective we need to best help you.
One thing that abuse survivors are used to is to running when things get tough. That may have contributed to your not staying with a therapist long enough to really make a difference. And, like Miss Pixie says, it usually does indeed get/feel worse before it gets better - because the wound is opened again - but so it can be properly healed, and not left seeping and poisoning your entire life.

silverfaerychild · 05-06-2009, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Nell

Hi

I was sexually abused by a preditor when I was twelve until I was thirteen and have had this haunt me from that point forward. I suffer PTSD SI and alcohol and drug abuse since then. I feel that it's so unfair that my life was ruined by this jerk.

I feel I will never be able to move beyound any of this as it's plagued me ever since.

I have been to many therapists etc. and I swear they are more screwed up than me.

Nell

dont think that....i have been abused by a boyfriend for 4 years from the time i was 14-17 and i always thought " I will never be the same person again" but in reality....you will become yourself again

it just takes time...sometimes years....to regain sense of your self..and such

dont give up home