Why is it so hard?!

[TeenSeen]

I hate this! I'm only 14 for cryen out loud and yet they really don't care what they put on me! It's like I'm a huge punching bag and my parents are just using me for that reason.
Why don't they care? I sit in the basement for long hours at night just to watch the flames in the fire place. My parents know I do it! They've seen the cuts and they don't do anything! They only mentined it once. I don't do it for attention, no, quite the opposite. I like being left alone when it comes to most of my family. But don't they care?

And another thing, why am I so weak? I was about to tell my aunt about this thing, and then as soon as we saw eachother, I backed out. I didn't tell her...I wanted to, but its hard to explain. I don't know...


Sorry to bother you all with this.

[shadow-light]

maybe they do care but don't know what to say? like are in denial or whatever... or they could think that bringing it up may somehow make it worse?

[trina1723]

*hugs*
sounds like you are struggling a bit at the moment, .
im sure your parents do care they just dont know how to show it.
if you want to tell your aunt, or someone else, but you cant seem to say it, how about writing a letter for her to read, so you can put down everything you want to say, i often find writing things easier.
if you ever wanna talk then im just a pm away
xxx

[Katiee]

Heyya,
I'm sorry you're feeling like this. *HUGS*
You're parents do care, maybe, as already said, they just don't know what to say or are scared themselves. You're not weak. It's a really good step that you wanted to tell your aunt.. just keep trying to tell her, you will be able to soon. I know it's hard at first but it will get easier. Take care, hun. xx

[Isoverity]

Well there is a weird sort of chain effect in life where people pass their stresses on to the people they feel safe with. A boss can yell at a dad, who yells at a Mum, who yells at the kids - who kick the dog (or SI if they are last in the chain - often the case). People who are upset and degraded feel compelled to upset and degrade back. It's like they have a hot potato they want to throw to you to catch so they feel better.

Unfortunately "poop rolls down hill" as the saying goes and kids get a lot of things dumped on them.

Parents can also often avoid looking at problems because they dont want to be upset. Out of sight = out of mind. Sometimes too parents dont want to make a fuss over things they dont know how to fix and thats fair enough. What they could do if they were savy is ask you what your upset about.

In the meanwhile, dont resent or hate parents because it backfires terribly and you'll feel worse about yourself from the guilt, anxiety of it all. You dont have to like the situations - just dont hate them. Things will fix themselves in time - for you if for nobody else.