Feel so bored, lonely and frustrated!

[Jwal90]

I came on here to vent as I'm so frustrated I feel like I'm going to explode!

I feel like my life has no meaning and I'm just going through the motions.

I'm living an area I did not grow up in so do not have many friends around here. I work in a business that, at the moment, is not very busy so I find myself doing a whole lot of nothing for 9 hours of the day then at the end of it feeling so tired I can't be bothered to do anything.

I met this great girl a few months ago who made me really appreciate life again but she went back to her home town in another country to study and will be staying there indefinitely.

I just do not know what to do with myself and it's driving me up the wall

[Cacoethes]

Hi there.

Is it possible to look for another job? One that will hopefully give you a bit more to do?

I can really relate to not having many friends close by. Are there any groups or clubs that you could join to maybe make some new friends?

[OverEmotional]

How could you be lonely when you've got RYL? ;)
Na..all joking aside Cacoethes is right! Either get a new job or a new hobby. Either one should allow you to meet a ton of new people. Are you happy where you are living now? If you were feeling bold you could even move somewhere new, somewhere that excites you. If you dont want to do any of the above is the anyone in your current job you'd enjoy hanging out with?

[Jwal90]

It's an awkward situation as it's a family business and for several reasons - I'm now committed.

I've never known what I wanted to do with my life and I think part of the frustration is that I'm now in a position that's been chosen for me, rather than by myself.

I have so much pent up energy during the day I feel like I'm going insane but by the end of it I'm just exhausted and I don't want to do anything.

I've thought about joining local clubs but I don't know what interests me and my social anxiety prevents me from actually attending even if I did commit to it.

I feel like if I carry on this way I'm just going to end up leading this miserable, meaningless life. My only happiness seems to come from unhealthy places at the moment - buying things, alcohol and validation from other people

[Enthused]

You need music. I recommend Johnny Cash. You're welcome

[shadow-light]

could you look into going to some sort of club or getting some sort of hobby with a social aspect? That way you'll have an outlet and also perhaps make some friends with similar interersts to yourself

[mybrokendream73]

I have to agree with everyone else on here. Try and join a social club, or just get out there and have fun! Go to a local bar or club, movie theatre, something to get you out of the house and talking to others. The social anxiety i completely understand, I have the same issue, or I did. Only way to really deal with it is to just meet people, force yourself out of your comfort zone.

[SpaceKadett19]

Yeah I do agree with the others. Perhaps a new job or hobby could do a lot. And you can always talk to or email the girl. And maybe start smallish to meet new people. Find a club that may not involve much talking so you can just observe or go somewhere social but where you may not necessarily have to talk to too many people. Ease yourself into it

[Jwal90]

I'm happy to say I'm feeling a lot less frustrated today and a bit more optimistic about the future - I've decided to see a councillor next week as I feel like I struggle to explain how I feel and when I asked for advice from friends and family I can't help but feel more confused.

I almost feel as though I need a complete change - maybe move away, go back into education and just start life completely fresh. Has anyone ever done this before?