I could tell you wayyyyy worse stories..like taking a pee on a bathroom window sill thinking it was the loo...at a work buddies house..and Im female!! Can you imagine walking into work after that on a Monday when its the talk of the whole hotel... but I survived it, just about! Although I did quit that job soon afterwards :D
Chill out :D You didnt do anything to hurt anyone else so all guilt can be forgotten. Now regarding the guy...he obviously enjoys your company since he asked you out for pre-party drinks :)
Jealousy is deeply route in insecurity. I speak from experience. It may do you good to work on your self esteem. The more you love yourself the less you feel the need to have others approval.
The less you'll care about the guy you like talking to pretty girls because you are confident in yourself and know that you are fine with or without him & if he got with someone else then you just know hes obviously not the one for you.
You could just talk honestly with him if your really into him. You could tell him the whole situation made you realise how much you like him?
But at the same time getting into a relationship with low self esteem is not a great idea either, you dont want to be that nagging jealous girlfriend type, again speaking from experience! Online you'll find tons of information about boosting your confidence, building self esteem, learning to love yourself. It may seem silly at first but believe me its necessary. You dont want to end up like me in a few years because you never put in the effort to really take care of yourself. Also going to a therapist is obviously another way of doing this, whatever works for you hun!
A word of warning...its not normal to black out. I know it happens to a lot of us, but its not safe and not worth the worry & problems it causes. I barely drink these days (Im 25) because I know all to well the trouble it can get me in or rather that I get myself in.
What do you drink? Vodka? Im a huge whiskey fan!! Could drink it all night, but Ive learned over the years it a last call drink if even, not an all night drink. Try moving onto bottles, their expensive and small :D Balls I know but you may find it helps you to drink less and enjoy yourself more.
If you are uncomfortable/stressed/anxious/self conscious when your out your more likely to down booze so to help you cope. Its pretty much done subconsciously but watch for this next time you are out and you can start consciously choosing how quickly you drink.
Ok one last thing, are either of your parents big drinkers? If so take note that an alcoholic gene may have been passed onto you. This would mean you naturally have a lower tolerance to booze. It sucks (my Mom and Dad are both drinkers so I know I have it & my sister too) but thats life.
These days our culture is too focused on partying.. I used to love it I'd go on the session non stop..but I can tell you now its not what lifes about. Going out and getting hammered can be good to relieve stress at the end of a tough week, but it shouldnt be your only outlet for how you destress. Im not saying this is the case for you, but mentioning it just in case.
Be thankful and proud that you notice these issues and take positive steps into resolving them.
Best of luck hun <3
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