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Old 11-06-2010, 05:11 AM   #1
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Triggering (SI) - What do you define Self-Harm as???

I think we all know what the textbook definition of self-harm is.

But to you, what is self-harm?

For me, self-harm is the medicine I use to make me better, to stop the pain and loneliness I suppose.

What about you?



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Old 11-06-2010, 07:18 AM   #2
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It's a means whereby I inflict pain on myself, or a visible mark of my emotional distress. It's a pain I can control, it's a hurt that can be seen. To some extent this is reparative of my past, in a twisted kind of way.

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Old 11-06-2010, 11:53 AM   #3
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To me it was hurting myself in some way physically to deal with all the emotions I was dealing with



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Old 11-06-2010, 12:04 PM   #4
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Hurting myself to punish myself or to get relief and control over my feelings..



♥ .I'm going to fall like I don't need saving. ♥
...My smile's just the armour I built when I was alone...

There was some part of me that hurt so badly, that I wouldn't ever be able to forget it.
It faded but the memories could bring it back any second, keeping me in the moment.
It would never fully heal. I could never really be free. I could never really be fixed.
Now I just have to work out how to live whilst being broken.
I feel like I'm dying.


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Old 11-06-2010, 12:57 PM   #5
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to me self harm is the release of emotions. its as much a part of me as my heart that beats.

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Old 11-06-2010, 07:16 PM   #6
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relief of stresses...an outlet from reality...a representation that my pain is real.

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Old 11-06-2010, 08:42 PM   #7
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For me, SI used to be my survival mechanism...as much of a contradiction as that may seem to be...

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Old 11-06-2010, 08:47 PM   #8
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A survival technique. Something to keep the waves calm, so to speak. Stop me feeling happy, stop me feeling sad. Now it has been taken away, I have to feel emotion.

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Old 11-06-2010, 10:52 PM   #9
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My SI is cutting burning or bruising for punishment or to calm down



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Old 11-06-2010, 11:07 PM   #10
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I guess self-harm is in the name, harming the self intentionally.


on a related note, does it have to be physical in nature? What about when people intentionally get into fights to punish or harm theirselves? or when people purposely neglect their health? Or push people away to intensionally cause them to be alone? etc.

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Old 12-06-2010, 01:33 AM   #11
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I agree with shadow-light.. I don't think self-harm is just a physical act to hurt oneself.

I don't take my medicine to punish myself, to make me sick, to hurt myself even more.
I can't control the illness, but I can control the meds.

... but i think that self-harm is anything that causes harm to yourself. Be it cutting, ODs, EDs, skipping meds... Anything.



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Old 13-06-2010, 04:50 PM   #12
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Self harm is my grounding technique.....

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Old 13-06-2010, 04:55 PM   #13
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For me, self-harm is something to express my emotions, something to make me realize I am alive, something to make me feel, to remind me the past is real, something to hold on to, fall back on and to know I am not completely empty.



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Old 14-06-2010, 11:58 PM   #14
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It's a means whereby I inflict pain on myself, or a visible mark of my emotional distress. It's a pain I can control, it's a hurt that can be seen.
exactly this.

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Old 16-06-2010, 10:52 PM   #15
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for me it is a way to deal with the situation, once I have SH'd I often feel like the situation is dealt with because i have done something about it. At other times it relieves the anxiety, I don't know how else to get rid of the intense emotions - even if SH only stops them for a short while it's worth it

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Old 16-06-2010, 11:12 PM   #16
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selfharm is apart of me its my best friend i need it but a kinda friend i hate and a friend that never lets mme down
-it makes me feel pure
-it helps me to feel
-it helps me to escape for that momment intime if not planned forever



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she's falling from grace , she's all over the place..............




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Old 16-06-2010, 11:18 PM   #17
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self harm is how i express my frustration with all my inadequacies.



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Old 16-06-2010, 11:40 PM   #18
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Self harm for me... Is a way i can control my body, when i feel i have no control, it releases the emotions am feeling without taking it out on other people ( sadly i take it out on myself) Though i will and have also used self harm for punishment but also for any emotion i have felt before even feeling happy. I can always count on self harm, which is quite sad but its true.

Though i agree with other people self harm can come in other forms not just by cutting/ burning eg staying in a abusive relationship, drinking, smoking etc ( I arent saying everyone who drinks or smokes self harms but that there some of the other ways people self harm)

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Old 14-08-2010, 06:45 AM   #19
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Self-harm helps me deal with overhwelming emotions, serves as a way to punish myself and something that calms me down when I am anxious.

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Old 15-08-2010, 07:47 AM   #20
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Self harm helps me get away from myself and everything else. when i cut, there isnt anything but pain and blood. all i can see and feel is pain and blood.



We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shaddow that never leaves. - Buddha


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