I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
~ Marilyn Monroe
Pup, i believe we see your point that you define yourself by your illnesses.
what others are asking is if you would like to try and work on the symptoms rather than have your illness stick with you forever. i understand that it is all you have ever known but in my experience, trying to break free from what you have only known can help. it can help when you try to solve some problems not by past experience but by logic/what you would like to happen.
im not sure if that makes much sense. but i think we all understand your point and are just trying to offer other methods of viewing things in a non attacking way.
i most certainly am not attacking you so please try to move on and understand that we understand no ono one is ganging up.
and Morrigan when you said you woud love to see compeditiveness in recovery, it put a genuine smile on my face :) that is a very awesome way to help others recover too, by spreading a positive vibe. now.. a way to encourage this?
Maybe we could take -Tough Cookie-'s idea from the ED board of the "What have YOU done for recovery today?" and put similar threads in more boards.
^^good idea!
Sometimes, the recovery posts do get overlooked. I also think having them in a whole separate forum is adding to this..as someone mentioned already.
I know ppl who have been reluctant to post good news/recovery type posts because they view it as 'bragging', not belonging, and 'it won't get many replies, so why bother?', etc.
I agree Irene, but also have noticed that people (in replies) do tend to focus on positive things others have done. Like going to the doctor if you've taken an OD, being honest about your eating with a nurse, throwing away blades etc. People often say "I've been x days and just slipped up" and the replies are usually "well done on the x days, why did you slip up etcetc". So I think there is an element of positiveness in replies.
And I know personally when I had a positive rant going, people messaged me and said it was nice, too. And it helped me to focus on recovery instead of the doom and gloom here - so maybe using rants or journal to document good things might be a suggestion, to just throw it out there!
(I hope I haven't already said this but) I do wonder if a **positive recovery post** label in all forums would go down well, just to highlight them. You don't always post positive things in Moving Forward, so... I dunno. It might work in MHD, SID... not serious or GSA so much. Hmm.
Wake me up before I change again
Remind me the story that I won't get insane
Tell me why it's always the same
Explain me the reason why I'm so much in pain.
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Gatsby believed in the green light, the orgastic future
that year by year recedes before us.
It eluded us then, but that's no matter - tomorrow we
will run faster, stretch out our arms further...
And one fine morning - So we beat on, boats against the current,
borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Re *positive recovery labels* i agree with the above.i think it could only help things and it would be good to see them more places, where appropriate.
i often like reading peoples positive recovery posts!It brightens up my day, gives me hope and i also genuinely think its nice to congratulate people on their hard work and to see their improvements and hopefully it can beneficial to the thread starter to post those type of posts too.
As for competitiveness in recovery thats a wonderful idea as opposed to the opposite and i love the positiveness of the phrase!
i think many of us are here to grow and recover and i hope that over time i am managing to get myself to focus on that more and more.
xx
i do not always manage to be around but i wish you all the very best - love and luck to you all!
I said it wouldn't work in serious and would work on the specific boards. I know what its about in there, I'm not as much of an idiot as most people seem to think I am.
Wake me up before I change again
Remind me the story that I won't get insane
Tell me why it's always the same
Explain me the reason why I'm so much in pain.
And that's fine, whatever works for you. Others don't like to be 'labeled'.
I am personally against self-diagnosis and would much rather people saw a doctor or other professional to see about getting a proper diagnosis, and subsequent help and support. This is something I have seen a lot, members saying 'I think I have x, what can I do?' and when suggested they see a professional, won't.
Last edited by The One Who : 17-02-2010 at 11:11 PM.
hmm... I finally got to the end of the thread and have forgotten what was said at the begining
I like some of the thread ideas that have been suggested. But (not to be a pessimist or anything) they are fairly dependent on people using them... There were some pritty good threads about tips on coping with symptoms, etc on a day to day basis not long ago, for exmple, but after only a few days they seemed to become inactive...
just saying i define myself by the disorders/illnesses/difficulties i have.
just out of curiosity... and feel free not to answer if you don't want to...
but say one day you "recovered", what would you do then? i understand the idea of nt knowing who you'd be without the "labels", I can't remember ever not having something or other wrong either, but there's always a chance that one day you may not have the labels...
I am personally against self-diagnosis and would much rather people saw a doctor or other professional to see about getting a proper diagnosis, and subsequent help and support. This is something I have seen a lot, members saying 'I think I have x, what can I do?' and when suggested they see a professional, won't.
I agree.
Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back, everything is different…
you once called your brain a hard drive, well say hello to the virus.
It's seems very strange that some people will write lists and lists of what they have, or may have; and yet others feel that they aren't 'bad enough'...... Maybe it's just different ways of coping?
Going back to Claires' point on self diagnosing; Definately not a good idea. I know of people who literally spend their days on the computer looking up disorders and taking 'online tests', self diagnosing and thinking; 'I may have that'. I can totally understand why people want a diagnosis; I think it's a case of knowing that there is something happening and it is possible to recover. When you know what you're dealing with, you can then fight it? If that makes sense. I can also understand why people don't want a diagnosis though.
-“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.” Anais Nin-
Allie, Mutt, Great Grandma, Hope and Humbug. I love you and miss you all. xx
Mmrm, yes, there is that, but I see far greater numbers attempting to downplay very real struggles and also refusing to get help.
Whilst I can well understand the reluctance to get treatment (and have been slow at times to get it myself), this to me is a more damaging influence than the self-diagnosing as those reading may feel that their problems are not serious enough for help either.
I think that's just a result of having a large number of people with similar struggles in the one place. There will always be an element of an 'I'm not as bad as them, therefore I don't deserve the support' attitude. Telling everyone that we are all here for a reason and all deserve support and help won't get through when dealing with people with little or no self esteem.
I know about not wanting to see a doctor, but it gets to a stage where you can no longer will this away and need to see someone about it.
I said it wouldn't work in serious and would work on the specific boards. I know what its about in there, I'm not as much of an idiot as most people seem to think I am.
I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to offend you. I was just replying to your post and saying what I thought.
Really, really sorry. I shouldn't have posted.
Gatsby believed in the green light, the orgastic future
that year by year recedes before us.
It eluded us then, but that's no matter - tomorrow we
will run faster, stretch out our arms further...
And one fine morning - So we beat on, boats against the current,
borne back ceaselessly into the past.
