she said most people whose parents do it do it lovingly but mine didnt but it wasnt really punishment
plus she never really dealt with somone who had both parents do it
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
she said most people whose parents do it do it lovingly but mine didnt but it wasnt really punishment
plus she never really dealt with somone who had both parents do it
are you talking about abuse here? i wonder what she means by they "do it lovingly" and what does she mean by "it wasn't really punishment"? sorry i might be slow here but i've never heard of abuse being done lovingly. i also don't know about the abuse you've endured so i may be off track here. btw, are you happy with your therapist and do you feel you trust her?
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yeah she said quite often people get comments like that they are lovely or something
i didnt i just got told to do certain actions otherwise not spoken to and no nasty comments
i dont know
sorry
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
nod
yeah she said quite often people get comments like that they are lovely or something
i didnt i just got told to do certain actions otherwise not spoken to and no nasty comments
i dont know
sorry
ah i get what you mean but i don't think abuse is the same for everyone. i wasn't told i was lovely or anything like that when it was going on. it...just happened, no words were spoken. so i think the way abuse takes place might be different. it doesn't mean you're a freak or not normal.
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
you don't have anything to be sorry for and you're not useless. thanks for replying to my thread today btw, your comment was really helpful. It helps to know that you understand. *hugs*
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
she said most people whose parents do it do it lovingly but mine didnt but it wasnt really punishment
plus she never really dealt with somone who had both parents do it
Your therpist seriously confuses me :/
Although I can see the not being a punishment thing, maybe they meant that it wasnt relly a punishment for doing something bad as no matter what you did it would probably still have happened.
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
maybe its time to change
and leave it all behind
ive been the one to walk alone
ive always been scared to try
so why does it feel so wrong to reach for something more
to wanna live a better life
what am i waiting for?
maybe its time to change
Jo, either your therapist is really unskilled and doesn't know what she's on about, or you must be misunderstanding something. Personally I have seen both kinds of abuse where the parent is also "loving", but many where they are just cruel and cold with everything. You're not a freak at all. In fact I'm sure you can find over a dozen people on this board who were treated just like you. Really Jo, you're a hell of a lot more normal than you think you are.
Farewell the Ashtray Girl
July 12, 1987-April 30, 2010
cant stay on, dont think....
hes mad at me....
scared... gotta try to get to roof....
maybe its time to change
and leave it all behind
ive been the one to walk alone
ive always been scared to try
so why does it feel so wrong to reach for something more
to wanna live a better life
what am i waiting for?
maybe its time to change
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
i don't know. i'm so confused. i just took a tiny overdose. planning on taking more tonight. btw, i hope you're ok. replied to your post. i'm here if you wanna talk. *hugs*
I didnt mean to... i just did...
