hey,
don't you remember what i sent you the other night sweetie? i admire you for being so strong and dealing with your issue/problem ...i don't know what you want to call it. after the book i read and recommended you i can see that what you might have sounds incredibly (excuse the rubbish spelling) difficult...but you deal with it and i admire you..and you're very pretty. forget about the sh**ty people, believe in yourself..
We think we are the "stupid" person that sent the PM.
Perhaps we worded it sharply, and we apologise for that, but we stand by what we said.
This was the PM for clarification:
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We feel like we need to pm you RE: a couple of threads you've posted in regarding DID.
DID is a serious disorder, and comes about after severe childhood abuse, sexual, physical, rape, torture for extended periods of time, years and years non-stop with no support or hope of reprieve.
We feel very concerned and invalidated when we see you posting to someone saying you think they have DID on a thread when you don't have the knowledge or training to do so.
Lots of members at RYL are young and impressionable, wanting to find something that explains the way they feel, and may jump at an idea that someone suggests. When someone puts forward symptoms you really need to tell them to seek a professional opinion. Psychiatrists and Dr's are the only ones that can diagnose what their symptoms are.
As well as that, in can be very invalidating for those of us who have been diagnosed and struggle with DID every day, to see people throwing the DID diagnosis around like it's a common cold.
We just needed to let you know.
Because we have DID this is even closer to home for us.
We understand you want to help people, and that is great, here at RYL that's what we all do, give and receive support.
But saying to people things like "it sounds like you have 'x'" whatever 'x' happens to be isn't the right way to go about it and can cause more harm than good.
This doesn't mean you are responsible for anything they do though, everyone is responsible for their own behaviour, it's not your fault whatever they do.
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However, I agree that suggesting to people that they have DID is not useful. You say you want to help people so they don't end up like you, and if you mean the DID part, it won't simply go away, and it forms in early childhood, so helping someone will not prevent it. There is also the fact that you say you have symptoms that match up to DID but you don't know what you have, and a lot of people who have been diagnosed with DID here are vrey touchy about people thinking they have it when they have not been tested for it; because it is a very controversial diagnosis that many people do not believe. I also think it's unusual to have so much contact and awareness with alters before starting therapy to deal with the separate parts, even though I'm aware everyone's system operates differently. The way alters operate is to keep things blocked, which is why most people are unaware of them to an extreme extent, if that makes sense. With work in therapy, communication with them can open up, but it's unusual to know so much about them before beginning that work.
Facet has wise words.^
You don't need to hurt yourself, no one here thinks you are a bad person at all. We hope you take care of yourself because no one deserves to be hurt.
No I haven't seen her for two weeks
It's only happened recently
Cos I got recommended to the DID thread cos someone said it sounded like that
Then they got me talking with their alters as well apparently. I don't remember the conversations.
if these things have only been happening recsently that I think you should defantly bring it up with a professional.
That thread is for all aspects of the dissociation spectrum, DID is only one aspect of it. Maybe they dirrected you to that thread for support as it sounded like you had some dissociative symptoms rather than them meaning that you had DID?
A thousand mile journey starts with the first step
Join Date: Oct 2009
I am currently:
I'm sorry, I screwed up so much. Cally I gave in, I'm not strong enough to do any of this.
I screwed up big time, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry, to everyone...
Don't admire me, I'm probably the worst role model anyone can have.
I'm really sorry
A thousand mile journey starts with the first step
Join Date: Oct 2009
I am currently:
I am.
Why couldn't I just be a better person?
Or not a person?
I think that'd be better.
I want to end it... The only people that'll care are my parents.
A thousand mile journey starts with the first step
Join Date: Oct 2009
I am currently:
But I screwed up big time.
The only thing I could probably do right is suicide. Even though I've failed at it once before. I can't even do that right...
I'm just a failure.
You arnt a failure, you are quite strong even if you cant see it. But you have to think about it, really think about it, do you really want to die? Chances are no you dont, you only want the escapism, but there is so much more left to learn about life.
"Its not how long a star shines, what is remembered is the brightness of the light"
Don't give up. Please we all care about you.
I'm not the only one on here who know's what you're going through.
It sucks it really does, but you've got to try and fight them, don't let them tell you you're a failure or a bad person because you're not.
Suicide isn't the answer.
Things might seem bad and hard right now Kat, but please - suicide isn't the answer. I don't care how cliche or overused it is, because it's true. More people than you can think of will miss you. People you may not have talked to for years will feel bad. We'll miss you.
You are NOT a failure, you are an incredibly strong person. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Kat, you've got to hang in there hun.
*super big squishy hug for Kat*
PM me if you need to.
If someone ever says to you "You need to stop thinking so much," call them ignorant in your head and keep thinking deeper. It is this mentality that breeds stupidity and sheeple. Your mind is the most important tool you have. If you stop using it, it will atrophy.
A thousand mile journey starts with the first step
Join Date: Oct 2009
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But nobody wants me around, no one can be bothered with me...
I can't be bothered to fight them anymore, I SI'd really badly today... They're not deep but the inside of my forearm is covered with cuts.
It's the only thing left for me.
No one will miss me if I died, no one would be truly devastated, in fact they'd be expecting it because they know what I'm like.
Every day I feel like it could be my last... I feel like I'm going to die, every day, not just because I could kill myself but because I could die through some external force, like getting run over by a car or something...
I'm going to die soon, I know it.
I would care if you died. I mean I barely know you but I would miss you all the same. And I know I'm not the only one who would. You've helped loads of people on here and I'm sure many people in your every day life would be devastated.
I know what you mean when you say that you feel you're going to die all the time. I get that a lot too.
Please we all care about you alot.
I hate saying it but this cliche is so true. Suicide doesn't solve anything.
No matter what they might say you are strong and definetly not worthless.
You can get through this.
PM me if you would like to talk.
* Cuddles* x
I would also care if you died :(
Your awesome, and i like having you around.
Ignore what some people say on here, they can do more harm than they think, all theses people ont his thread showing support are worth your time and want you around :)
Loves
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