no you did the rigth thing going to the doctors appointment! sex should not be prioritised about things, especially not important things like doctors appointments...
sleeping with him won't help you... I mean why would it? what's his logic?
you are not a whore, not a slut and not dirty.. HE IS THE BAD ONE NOTYOU!!!!!!!!!
he says it will sort me out he says i dont need to harm as i have him and sex willsort me out and he got angry and now i have to let him do other stuff to make it all up to him and i dont want to as it makes me feel dirty as it hurts so bad and isnt right im sure it isnt natural and it goes against god in that way but he doesnt care and i have to im sorry
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
is there no way that you could cut this person out of your life?
what he's saying is lies and manipulation... sex doens't "sort people out"... especially if it makes you feel "dirty"... ignore what he says, forcus on how you feel, that's where the truth lays
i have to do it i have to make it up to him or i will end up pregnant as i have two choices of how i can make it up and one is sex without protection and i dont want his baby so i have to do the other and i wish so badly i was dead then he couldnt hurt me anymore and i know i need help and i am going to try but im sorry
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
the body does that... it's an involuntary reaction, your body reacting doesn't mean it's good, doesn't mean you want it... it just means you're body is working...
i dont like it i feel like im so dirty
i cant even bear to have a bath at the moment as dont want to se my flesh
i hate myself so bad and want to cut everywhere he touched to punish it for reacting i want to cut it all
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
Originally Posted by http://www.scotland.gov.uk/Publications/2008/04/16112631/10
It is possible for people to have a physical (sexual) response. This is an involuntary body reaction which can be very confusing. If this happened to you, it does not mean that you wanted to be assaulted or enjoyed the experience.
you're body doesn't need punishing... I know it can feel that way, can feel that your body has betrayed you, or isn't fully a part of you... I feel that way alot... but that's not true, it's HIS crime not yours.
I know you don't like it, your body reacting doesn't mean that you do. your body is just reacting to a stimulus, it doesn't know what it is, your brain knows what it is... listen to your head, it knows what's going on, your body doesn't.
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
please don't be sorry, you have done nothing wrong.
I know it's hard to believe... but the first step is for you to realise that HE is wrong, HE is using you, HE is manipulating you, HE is hurting you, HE is bad... not you, you've done nothing wrong...
if you can, please think about trying to get away from him... maybe tell someone what's happening... someone who can keep you safe...
I know that cutting contact yourself is hard (nigh on impossible...) but with another person it gets easier.
you've done nothing wrong. but you need to take that first step to regain control of your life and start to get better, HE is making you ill...
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
he has been on at me again today-he started off by being really nice and telling me what a great person i am and that im not useless-i should of seen the signs-it turned bad and he starting pushing me to agree to do it with him and to do toher stuff-i didnt agree but he still thinks i have
maybe i cant say no properly so that is why he did r*pe me maybe it wasnt that maybe i consented by accident
sorry
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
Originally Posted by http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/rape.html
definition of rape to include the penetration by a penis of the vagina, anus or mouth of another person. The 2003 Act also changes the law about consent and belief in consent. The word "consent" in the context of the offence of rape is now defined in the Sexual Offences Act 2003. A person consents if he or she agrees by choice, and has the freedom and capacity to make that choice. The essence of this definition is the agreement by choice. The law does not require the victim to have resisted physically in order to prove a lack of consent.
consenting has to be through choice, through free will... not through pressure, intimidation, etc... if you said "No", no matter how timidly then he should have left it there... if he manipulated you into saying yes then it's not consent, if he just kept on asking until you said yes it's not consent, if you said no but he went on to do it anyway then it's not consent, if you were none committal (neither saying yes nor no) then it's not consent...
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
C'mon hunni... you know what he wants you to do is wrong, otherwise you wouldn't be so upset about it and needing help. Think about someone else being in the situation you are in... think about what you would say to them.
YOUR body is yours for a reason. It belongs to you, and you are the only person that can decide what happens to it. If you don't want him to do what he's doing or threatening to do, then you don't have to let him. What you do need to do is talk to someone who can help you break free from him.
We can help you as much as possible, and support you through things, but ultimately, you're the only one that can stop it. Talking to people is a scary thing, but it's necessary to make you safe and happy.
I know this has been going on for a long time, with no signs of improvement... so when he tells you that he loves you, you should know by now that he really doesn't mean it. You deserve someone who will treat you right, and kindly... not this sad excuse of a person.
I'm sorry if you think I've been harsh hunni, but you really need to see that you can change things if you want to. We'll be with you every step of the way with whatever you choose to do... but please consider getting help and stopping him? I'm always only a PM away hunni, and you know I'll do what I can to help.
"A penny for my thoughts, oh no, I'll sell 'em for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I'm a goner
And maybe then you'll hear the words I been singin'
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin'"
