I do it all the time:P Im always surprised when I dont see any scars, even though I dont really expect anyone to have scars, I just dont get how they can live without SH kinda. And yea, I do feel a bit "better" when people got scars. I saw this man in his 30ies, he had his entire hand covered with raised scars, but he was really confident(and handsome, lol), and it made me feel really good. I was so proud of him even though I didnt know him
I don't think I ever actively look for them on people, but I do sometimes notice. When I see them I often wonder what has happened in people lives for them to have done it, and it also makes me realise how little we know about people around us. It does give a sense of not being alone in my experiences I guess.
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I always look at peoples arms for scars. Sad thing is i have never seen anyone whos arms are like mine so its :( i still feel like im the only one. And god help me its summer.
i used to do this until i realised that my arms arent really scarred and so i wouldnt really know if someone was a self harmer just by looking their arms.
i have seen a few people though especially when i worked at the bear factory. now i teach and i have a few pupils who self harm so my whole viewpoint on looking for scars has changed.
so does anyone think it would be appropriate to tell her about RYL.
i think it would be okay
and i do this too, and looking at old pictures i can pick out people who i used to know, who were always pulling their sleves down to hide their arms ect
glad im nto the only one
We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.
I do this all the time at school. When the sun comes out and everyone whips there jumpers off you can tell the kids who cut by there discomfort and the fact they still have there jumpers on despite dripping with sweat. Theres a few whos arms I have seen that look badly scarred and then theres one girl who just walks around with arms that are covered in fresh cuts. The same girl often has a gash across her throat, poor thing. I sorta know her through a friend so does anyone think it would be appropriate to tell her about RYL.
yes, if you would feel comfortable doing so, she obviously needs some sort of friend in her situation.
I also look for scars. Yesterday My head of year was covering my science lesson and she was talking to a kid in my year group, who never wears a jumper, but I saw loads of scars that could quite easily be SI scars, in a similar place to where mine are (I happen to know he's right handed as well) and I thought "Omg. He does too. I never knew." I pushed my sleeves up because I was too warm and I saw him looking a few times. He surprised me, because he's one of the chavvy popular kids, and he always seems so happy... but then I guess... so do I...
I don't look for scars, and when I see someone looking at my scars, I get uncomfortable. Probably because most of the people who have seen my scars and are self-harmers try to play some kind of who-has-it-worse game, which I'm totally not appreciative of...so I don't look for them. It sounds bad, but I just don't really care, I guess.
i always look for scars on people's arms. and sometimes i'll like look at it and be so jealous that they don't have any and have a nice smooth arm. i'll look at everyones arms. and my english teacher i've noticed he has a scar on his wrist, and i can't help but wonder....
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i used to do this until i realised that my arms arent really scarred and so i wouldnt really know if someone was a self harmer just by looking their arms.
That's a good point.
i haven't scared much until really recently. so, you can't say someone isn't a SIer because they don't have obvious scaring
i used to do this until i realised that my arms arent really scarred and so i wouldnt really know if someone was a self harmer just by looking their arms.
ditto
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It's ok, girl_with_a_broken_smile, it's only natural to want to find others like yourself, to know you're not alone. Btw I read your sig, and the fact you're on here trying to recover is in itself beautiful. Don't ever feel ugly, be proud of your strong soul.
I look not so much for scars as for people who always wear long sleeves. For myself most of my scars are on my belly, ankles and lower legs and noone ever sees those. I've had bandages and dressings on my ankles for weeks at a time which were visible under my long skirts and noone has ever noticed them. I think maybe we are extra-sensitive to noticing scars and other people wouldn't even think to look.
I try not to look for scars (although I do all the time,) because I have always felt like I would be invading their privacy by noticing? Not sure if that makes sense. On top of that, I only have a few scars on my arm (most of mine all coupled in one spot on my leg) and so for some reason it makes me feel inadequate. Like, i feel as though I would be ashamed if I ever did see someone else with cuts; it would make me feel like... I dont know how to write down what I mean.
no its not weird, if you cut yourself or have in the passed then its just a natural reaction to want to know if there are people around you who were/are ---- where you ---- were/are
i sometimes find myself look for scars, most the time i dont do it conciously
if i do see someone with scars i just want to give them a hug and tell them everythings going to be ok and that they dont need to hurt themselves. suppose i just dont want to see people in pain
