Survivors of sexual abuse, advice needed.

[dreamscollide]

Briefly mentions cutting.



My psych told me last week that i he was gunna push me into talking about it.... i don't know if i'm ready just yet i've been going for 8 months now and he thinks that i need to be pushed into talk about it ( because of this i've started cutting again and my sleeping is messed up) Personally i think i have other issues which are seperate to the abuse that need dealt with first and that i should be on anti-depressants. There is no way i am going through all of that on my own without any help.

Anyways my question is. Do i let him push me into although i don't feel ready.

Or do i go to my doctors get on anti-deps and get a new FEMALE pysch. I think i might be able to open up to a female dr easier as my abuser was a man....

Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks :)

[shadow-light]

I think sometimes people do need to be pushed a little into opening up, but not forced into it. And your resons for not wanting to do so yet are very sound, I think that having a support system in place before opening up about traumatic events is very important, and if you would feel more comfortable with a female therapist then maybe it would be sensible to at least look into getting one. Do you know how lng it would take to change psychs?

I have never really fully opened up about abuse stuff with psychs/therapists/councelors, I've told them in a very fact based mannor that it happened, but neer actually properly gotten into it, so there is a limit in how much advice I can give. But I can say that I do believe that yor reasoning seems very logical and sensible to me.

[dreamscollide]

I can see why he's doing it 8 months and i've never really came close to even crying.

Support network.... i like that, i'll use that tomorrow. i'm defo not getting into all that again with out getting help. i got referred for genuine reasons before he found out about the abuse and he dont me he thinks they are all seperate issues. so i'm unsure as to what he wants to do with me now.

Thank you for the reply you really have made me feel better about tomorrow :)

[no point]

i agree with shadow light. you can't really be forced to opening up about it. you need to talk about it when YOU are ready. i haven't been able to talk about the abuse as yet. i just wrote my therapist a letter explaining the facts.

i also agree that if you can't talk to your male therapist, you should look for a female one.

let us know how it goes tomorrow, if you'd like. *hugs*

[rowankrow]

i understand i was sexelly abused and have nightmares nightly about it i think u should get a defferent counsouler pm me anytime

[apix]

Hi, I've been through sexual abuse too.
I couldn't have talked to a guy about it. I still haven't.
I told my good male friend that i wanted to be explaining about my past.
he stopped talking to me. I never told him.
it's so difficult to feel able to talk about it isn't it? I think it's brilliant that you're having counselling though. also i find writing alot easer than talkig about it. i wrote about it as a mock gcse as way of telling my english teacher.
good luck. pm me anytime