Triggering (Sexual Abuse) - Advice Please...?

[silverfaerychild]

this is hard for me to post as i know this could really upset some people on here for whom been SA


anywhom since i was SA i been noticing i tend to have bad thoughts bout kids round the ages of 14 to 16

i know this is not normal

but i dont know what to do

Bex

[troubleshooter]

Can you define bad thoughts a bit more? And if you're worried what people will think put it in a hide box *hugs*

[silverfaerychild]

i am not sure what to do

though i never acted on my thoughts

[Aidee]

How old are you?

[silverfaerychild]

20 years old

[Aidee]

and how old were you when you were abused?

[troubleshooter]

If any thoughts of hurting them happen too much you should def try and talk to a counselor about it and see what yo ucan do with it. It doesn't mean you're going to hurt anyone.

[bleeding black]

We say if you have a therapist talk to them about it,
There is something called a thought-action fusion;
Thought-action fusion refers to the tendency to treat thoughts and actions as equivalents
Which they aren't... there are writings of it if you google 'though action fusion'

It doesn't mean you are going to hurt someone at all. Although if you think you are, logically think you are going to seek help, but you already knew that.


thought-action fusion, indeed, promotes intrusive thinking in that it results in a higher frequency of target thoughts, more discomfort, and more resistance. Thus, the current findings support the idea that thought-action fusion may contribute to the development of obsessive intrusions.

I don't much get what that means, but the link is http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10087641 if we're allowed to do that... eek sorry moderators if we're not.

[silverfaerychild]

Quote:

Originally Posted by ~Aidey~

and how old were you when you were abused?

14 till i was bout 17

[shadow-light]

well if you were about that age when abused I guess it's possibly a way of your mind justifying what happened to you?


as has been said I think you should probably speak o someone more qualified than us about this. also, just because you're having these thoughts doesn't mean you have to act on them, I know you'll be worried about what people will think but a professional won't judge, and you can always lie to anyone else about why you're going.

[silverfaerychild]

true......

thnk you everyone..this has been very helpful

[foxfly]

I sometimes have thoughts like this too. I think some part of me has been programmed to see things in a sexual way that I shouldn't because I was forced to experience sexual things so early. I really don't feel like I'm going to act on these thoughts. You could think about it too, whether just because you're thinking it means you actually want to do these things. If it becomes really bothersome you should maybe talk to someone about it, or at least try writing them down somewhere for yourself, because on paper they might seem less horrible and more manageable.