A couple of months ago me and my bf had sex. He kept on wanting me to give him oral and I kept saying no. It ended up with him being over me and pushing his penis into my mouth although I kept saying no. I eventually got annoyed and just did as he wished and gave him oral. Was that abuse?
It sounds as though this has been playing on your mind a lot, sweetheart. It does sound like assault, because you said no and kept on saying no and he went ahead, by which time you felt you had to go along with it. I'm so, so sorry that this happened to you. Well done for opening up to us about this, that was a really brave thing to do.
How are you feeling over the whole incident now, honey?
*cuddles*
No means no and so I would say it was assualt because he should have stopped from the moment you said no.
Well done for posting you have dont nothing wrong.
Im so sorry you had to go through that
Feel free to pm me if you need anything
Take care
xx
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
Yes I am still with him. When it happened I felt vulnerable because I couldn't get him off me and I know I'm not strong enough to get him off. I feel like he took advantage of me.
you should speak to him about it & confront him. i hope you feel strong enough to do that because you deserve some sort of apology or explanation. has anything like that happened since?
i'd of bitten his thing off .
my ex tryed that with me and i said no and then when i was alseep of all things .. he tryed it . i bit it :D
if you need to talk i'm here for ya xx
not to be blunt, but have you given oral since then, and did you want to do it?
heh, i dunno. are you sure you can trust/feel safe with him after that, since you are planning "your lives together."
something similar happened to my friend and she waited two years to say to her boyfriend "remember that time when.." i dunno, i think you should speak to him about it asap, if only to get it out of the way. you don't even need to flat out accuse him of anything (but still be strong & assertive), just say to him that you didn't like that & he should listen to you when you don't want to do something like that.
i think you really need to say something to him about it. if you want the rest of your lives together you need to work through this before it builds and you live in fear of him.
well thats a pretty ****ed up situation, especially if you & him are in a "serious relationship." you shouldn't be afraid of your boyfriend (in any way) & you shouldn't feel like you HAVE to do anything because obviously you don't have to do anything. there is nothing in being a girlfriend that says you gotta give oral or have sex or even kiss him.
if this is still going on (i presume) then you need to talk about this with him & i think you should do it at the next oppurtunity you have. probably try talk to a friend about it first to get your mind straight on what you want to say, that may help.
i really hope you talk to him & get this sorted because if you are afraid of him "forcing" you to do anything that is not a healthy relationship and as far as i can see, there is no future there.
i really dont think you should be planning anything with this guy while this is going on. you're afraid of him and he's forcing you to do things your not comfortable with. very bad signs. do you really want to spend the rest of your life feeling this way?? talk to him about it and go from there..
im so glad someone said bite it i was thinking the same thing, see how much he feels like forcing you then. your mouth darling do what you like with it
I guess it could posibly have been a misunderstanding... he might have thought that once he'd gotten on top of you you may change your mind, or that rather than not wanting to do it you were unsure of how so said no... but no matter what the reason no means no! if he was unsure asto why you said nohe should have spoken to you about it, he should not have gotten on top of you like that and placed you into such a vulnerable position. I agree with others, you really should speak to him about this... maybe jut explain that you are not comfortable doing this right now, maybe you will be at a later date but forcing you to do it if anything will only make you less likely to ever ant to/be able to in the future. He should understand. My boyfriend used to want oral sex alot too, but due to past things I really really cannot do it... we discussed this and he was ok with it, though every now and again he tries to talk me into trying, but if I say no he's always ok with that. You really need to speak to him, noone should feel forced to do anything by anyone, and noone should have to fear others (especially not fear someone how is meant to care for them), talk to him. and if he doesn't understand or tries to make you do it again anyway then you really need to ask yourself is he really the oe for you? I know that may sound harsh, but he shuldn't be pressureing let alone forcing you into thins like this
