Triggering (SI) - SI survey for class. Please help.
Hi everyone. my class is required to write a feature article for English on a topic of our choice and I have chosen self harm. I was wondering if anyone would be willing to fill out a survey for my research. I'm basically trying to get some somewhat accurate statistics as most official statistics are taken from hospital documents and I know there are many self harmers like myself who have not told any authority figure of their situation. Please help.
How old are you?
Are you male or female?
What is the reason you started self harming?
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?
Does anyone know that you self harm?
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?
Sorry if this is hard for you. It was kind of hard for me to write the questions and think of the answers and I haven't even begun writing the article, but we get to read these out in class and I think it's important that people know that we're not just emos, we're real people with real issues and just need a hand to hold on to. Thanks everybody. I love you all.
Hi
i think its really good that your going to raise awarness that we arn't all emos!!
How old are you? 17
Are you male or female? Female
What is the reason you started self harming? Someone told me it would help me deal with things so i went home and did it (i wasnt very old at the time)
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? It used to but now i feel ive lost control =/
Does anyone know that you self harm? Yes
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? A bit of both she knew i was doing it before i told her but didn't want to say something and upset me I went to far and needed someones help i told her and she said she had thought that I did it anyway
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? I couldn't cope and I needed help I didn't want to tell anybody but she had helped me out with a lot of stuff and I knew I could trust her
Hope this helps =]
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How old are you? 39
Are you male or female? Female
What is the reason you started self harming? [In my late 20s] I hated myself and wanted to punish myself for 'being bad' - how my father and the bullies had made me feel, because I struggled with my emotions and low self esteem, and believed I was a failure. [NB Hitting and scratching, never cutting, and mainly hitting/bruising.] I'd never heard of self harming before I started. It was kind of 'natural'.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?It has at times helped me feel in control of the pain, where it stops and starts. Unlike in my past, when there was no escape from abuse.
Does anyone know that you self harm? Yes.
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? Willingly.
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?
How old are you? 17
Are you male or female? Female
What is the reason you started self harming? It helped me to cope with everything that was going on in my life at the time.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? It did. Not anymore. Now it's an addiction. It's controlling me, as opposed to the other way around.
Does anyone know that you self harm? Yes
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? Some and some... I told my best friend as I knew I needed help, but my parents found out because I didn't hide it well enough (I'm a rubbish liar lol)
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? I didn't want to tell my parents because I knew they wouldn't understand. I chose to tell my best friend because I thought she would be able to help me, seeing though she's been through similar things.
Hope this helps and good luck. I think it's a really great idea
xx
How old are you? 18
Are you male or female? Female
What is the reason you started self harming? Growing up, I was taught that if you are sad or upset, you're suppose to cut yourself.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? It used to, not so much anymore
Does anyone know that you self harm? Yes.
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? My parents found out. I told my best friends.
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? Afraid of being abandoned for it--again.
How old are you? 17
Are you male or female? Female
What is the reason you started self harming? Dealing with problems at home, grief, and being bullied.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? It has done, not so much anymore.
Does anyone know that you self harm? Two people
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? 1 found out, 1 willingly.
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? Apart from these two people, I don't tell anyone else because I want to be in control of my own life, deal with it on my own as much as possible, and move on from it with no interference from my family.
heya
i think its really good that you are going to raise awareness and maybe peoples opinions will change and we wont all be ceen to be emos!!
How old are you?16
Are you male or female?female
What is the reason you started self harming?i started self harm for a few reasons the reasons i started self harm was because i was been bullied very badly at school and at home i was been hit around by my parents and was the one who was looking after my siblings i guess i was so alone and withdrawn and frightened i couldnt let myself cry and i had no one to talk to i needed a way to deal with all my pain and that is why i began self harming.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?yes and no beacause in one way it does but in another way it does not it does because it helps me to deal with the pain and at first when you start self harming you are the one in control of it and your the one who can make yourself feel better but after a while it makes you in less control of your life because it begins to control you and therefore no longer really begins to work anymore as the self harm is controling you and you start doing it for no reasons as such just because you need to.
Does anyone know that you self harm?yes alot of people know.
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?some i told willingly but others just kinda found out.
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?the reason i dont and didnt tell anyone is because people have this perception that if you self harm that your emo and thats not true and also from expierence of telling people i have found out alot of people dont necessarly understand and that makes you feel worser to tell so for me i come to the conclusion its better to keep it to yourself so that then you dont get hurt by peoples reactions and also its kinda a private thing.
How old are you? sixteen Are you male or female? female What is the reason you started self harming? It was kind of instinctive, I've been doing minor forms of SI as long as I can remember when I was upset Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? yes
Does anyone know that you self harm? yeah If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? I told a few close friends and my boyfriend willingly, and I have been honest with doctors I talked to. My parents know, but they weren't supposed to. What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? I told people because I need to talk about what's on my mind, and I can't keep my own secrets. Ever.
How old are you?22 Are you male or female? Female What is the reason you started self harming? To be honest I do not remember... I remember that the first time I did it was at the age of 6 while my parents were having an argument. I think it was a combination of trying to gain control and a form of punishment Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? Sometimes... but it’s more about punishment to us, and retaining a connection with the world (dissociation issues) it regains connection with the body, and also stops flashbacks... Does anyone know that you self harm? A few of my friends know, and my partner does. Others probably know too be we haven’t discussed it If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? I told my partner (I told him before we moved in together as with living together he would find out and it’s best for me to explain than one day him find out) and 2 friends, the others noticed scars and asked directly... I can ever really lie when asked directly, so I admitted it. A few doctors and psychs know about it too, but I'm seeing them for other reasons really so it's not a focus or anything What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? I don’t see why I should hide it... I mean I don’t run around going “look at me, look at my scars, etc” but they are part of us, part of our life and part of the body. And I feel that taboo and stigma are REALLY damaging and we hope that in showing that we am not ashamed we can help (in some small way) to remove the taboo a little, and once the taboo is gone and people are able to discuss self-harm then we can work on the stigma issue
How old are you? 18
Are you male or female? Male
What is the reason you started self harming? I'm not really sure, it just seemed like a good way of coping at the time I guess.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? On rare occasions, yes. Must most of the time, the self harm is in complete control of me.
Does anyone know that you self harm? Yes.
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? I told them willingly. I figured they might be able to help me with what I was going through, and they did. Thanks person-who-will-not-be-named :)
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? I wanted to deal with on my own, and for ages I refused to let myself tell anybody, but in the end it just got too much and I had to tell somebody. I'm glad I did now.
How old are you? 17
Are you male or female? female
What is the reason you started self harming? [around 11 years old] Still somewhat unknown, I suppose I wanted to feel like I was alive, living, real; and to illustrate and give face to my emotions.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? It used to. But I feel i have now lost control of my life to SI.
Does anyone know that you self harm? Yes, friends and family recently found out.
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? Not willingly. a friend saw cuts on my body when clothing slipped up and the word spread through friends and finally to my family.
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? Firstly, it's a very private issue, and I'm a very private person. Secondly it has a dreadful stigma attached and when word surfaces that you're a self-harmer, labels get thrown. I didn't want that. Finally sheer embarrassment for my parents.
I hope this helps. Good luck on your paper. It sounds like you are really trying to do a good thing.
How old are you? Im 20
Are you male or female? Female
What is the reason you started self harming? I just got really mad and started to scratch my arms, felt right, so i started cutting eventually to do deal with my dads addiction
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? Yes definitely.
Does anyone know that you self harm? Yes, my roomates and some close friends, and my counsellor
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? Roomates\friends just found out
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? It was embarrasing, and I didnt want anyone to make me stop
"They say time heals all wounds. I don't agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessons, but it is never gone." - Rose Kennedy
How old are you?
17. Are you male or female?
Female. What is the reason you started self harming?
Started as an accident, and went from there. Stress and worries at home. Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?
I feel like it does, but I'm probably deluding myself.
Does anyone know that you self harm?
Yeah, some of my friends now, and my Dad. If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?
My Dad found out through no choice of mine, I told a couple of my friends. What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?
I'm scared of their reaction, and I don't want their opinions about me to change because of them knowing.
Hope your paper goes well.
x
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But I am actually good, can't help it if we're tilted.
I'm in my right place, don't be a downer.
How old are you? 18 Are you male or female? Female What is the reason you started self harming? Stresses and strains in life. Later things caused it to get worse though. I 'discovered' it by accident, though. Does self harm help you feel in control of your life? Yes, but I'm pretty sure it's in control of me. Does anyone know that you self harm? A few of my friends and my parents. If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out? Willingly. What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? I don't want people to think I'm 'weird' or something. I don't want to lose people over a stupid decision I made in life.
What is the reason you started self harming?
Ultimately because my father had an affair. But it was a build up of being insulted by parents, a medical condition, bullying and just generally hating myself immensely.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?
Yes, unfortunately. Though I know that it is out of control now and it isn't something I can stop it makes me 'feel' in control, even if I am not.
Does anyone know that you self harm?
They did, I am not so sure that they do now. Some people do.
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?
Not willingly.
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?
Because I was scared they would use it against me and manipulate/laugh at me. I didn't trust anybody enough to open up and didn't want them thinking badly of me thus, ruining the relationship that was already there.
How old are you?
58
Are you male or female?
Female
What is the reason you started self harming?
To take away the emotional pain
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?
yes
Does anyone know that you self harm?
Counsellor and my priest
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?
they found out - using gentle persuasion
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?
Come from a generation where it was not recognised for what it was
How old are you? 19
Are you male or female? Female
What is the reason you started self harming? [In my late 20s] I myself and wanted to punish myself for 'being bad' - i was finding things very hard to cope withh including my fathers death and dealing with exams
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?It feels like i have lost control
Does anyone know that you self harm? no
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone? im scared, scared that they will think that im a freak that there is something wrong with me, that they will be ashamed of me and that my friends will leave me
How old are you? 21
Are you male or female? female
What is the reason you started self harming? I don't clearly remember the exact reason, but around the time I started (just turned 13) I really, really, hated myself, and things happening around me. I suppose a a combination of factors made it explode.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?
nope, I guess it's like any other addiction: It makes me feel better for a short time, but afterwards you feel much worse.
Does anyone know that you self harm?
I *think* only my psychologist knows I'm still doing it.
When i was younger people like teachers and my mom knew.
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?
Told 1 teacher, but my mom found out herself :/
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?
I'm quite ashamed of it, because it really is a horrible habbit, besides, I'm terrified people will judge me purely on that, and won't look further as my wounds/scars to actually see me.
Tell me that past times won't die.
Tell me that old lies are alive.
How old are you?
18. Are you male or female?
Female. What is the reason you started self harming?
Depression/bullying.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?
It did at first, now it feels as though it's controlling my life. Does anyone know that you self harm?
Yes. If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?
My parents found out, but I've willingly told quite a few people after that. What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?
I didn't tell anybody at first because I didn't want anybody to stop me, and I didn't want to hurt anybody else. It is also a very private and personal thing and there is too much stigma around to feel comfortable about sharing.
~Beauty without intellence, is a materpiece painted on a napkin.~
What is the reason you started self harming?
I lost control.
Does self harm help you feel in control of your life?
In a way, sometimes it feels like it's the only thing I have control of.
Does anyone know that you self harm?
No, people know that I used to, but no one knows about it at the minute. But I'm going to tell someone, soon hopefully. I need to fix it.
If so, did you tell them willingly or did they find out?
They found out.
What is the reason you don’t/didn’t tell anyone?
I'm too scared about how they are going to react. I don;t want anyone to judge me and I don't want other people to be upset by it. I don't mind hurting myself, it's other people that I mind hurting. I don't want to do it.
