The Abuse and Bullying Section. Please ALL Read. *important update on pg 2*

ikle me · 19-06-2007, 09:24 PM

Have you seen the Abuse and Bullying section, just here[link]!

No your computer hasn't gone wrong or RYL has crashed, it really is empty. Now that sucks monkey balls, as this should be an invaluable resource to you guys and an empty page is doing faff all.

Now I've under taken the job to revamp the area specifically for you!

The original version was just called "bullying advice" and had 4 sections:

Workplace bullying
School Bullying
Bullying Biographies
Bullying links

Well the first problem is that abuse articles just got dumped in there and 90% of the time lost forever. Also half these tabs were half empty and very stagnant. I do believe most people just didn't bother looking.

So what would you like?

A specific bullying AND abuse section?
Do you like biographies?
Links, yay or nay?

And so on.

Any idea is NEEDED, not just wanted but needed!

abba12 · 19-06-2007, 11:20 PM

very much agree with mystic on all three points.

im trying to think of other things that could be added but i cant lol. ill think about it though and post something

Greyscale · 20-06-2007, 02:19 AM

I liked the bios and links are helpful. Maybe have some more bios. And how to tell people what's going on. Yeah. I can't think of anything. Sorry Nat.

~JellyBaby~ · 20-06-2007, 09:18 AM

biographies, defo, links, yay, and more focus on the abuse stufs as well, make it so theres equal amounts of info on bullying and abuse.
For the abuse section perhaps an area with the common grounding techniques and the opportunity to post your own which have helped you, for those who suffer from flashbacks. Also maybe just a page with tips on calming yourself down, after say an encounter with your ex-abuser, or after a particularly bad nightmare.
Hope thats helpful.
Amy xxxxx

Numbpurplehaze · 20-06-2007, 10:33 AM

I agree with what Amy said about articles on the grounding techniques and how to deal with flashbacks.
Biographies and things sound good aswell because it does show us that other people have gone through the same.

ghosts in the machine · 20-06-2007, 04:59 PM

articles on grounding techniques + flashbacks are a must :)

maybe a what to do IF.. section? I know I'm absolutely terrified about reporting something to the police, which I probably should do, but I have no idea as to what would happen if I went ahead with it. So maybe a quick bit from poeple who know about it..?

abba12 · 20-06-2007, 08:55 PM

a section which talks about how to calm down after a run in with an ex-abuser or bully, or a particuarly bad nightmare, would be really good.

[Purple_Rain] · 21-06-2007, 01:09 AM

a bit on cyber bullying and emotional abuse would be good, as cyber bullying isnt talked about much and emotional abuse is hard for the victim to define, i fthat makes sense.

biographies are good, maybe some celeb ones too, to show how even after abuse/bullyign u can go on to do anything u dream of?

agrees^^ a what to do if section would be brilliant

links are good to, different perspecitve on how to deal with things.

and thank you for undertakeign this huge task, as i ahd noticed it was a bit bare!

ghosts in the machine · 21-06-2007, 07:04 PM

e.g.

what to do IF:

you need to report abuse/rape/something to the police (procedures, etc)
you need to get checked out at a hospital (procedures, etc)

like that ^^ I meant
would be invaluable
and thank you for doing this for us, it's most appreciated

privileged-outcast · 21-06-2007, 08:14 PM

grounding techniques, and self help techniques would be good.

yeah a procedure outline would be cool too *as suggested somewhere up there*

if you need any help in doing them, feel free to PM, my exams finish in 5 days *does a funky dance*

also, you do deseave a medal AND a special cookie for everything you dooo

*passes you special cookie*

take care

abba12 · 22-06-2007, 03:32 AM

if you would like ill write and submit a biography in the next couple of weeks (ill be away next week). message me and let me know if youll be adding them manually. if itll be automatic and people can just add theirs whenever theyre ready then nevermind hehe, i just thought you might be waiting for some, i wasnt sure

helper1218 · 22-06-2007, 03:37 AM

You might also want to post reading material or movies that involve bullying/abuse. I think definitions of things and a FAQ section (similar to Alex's "what ifs") would be important because lots of people seem to ask a lot of the same questions if you look at things from time to time.

crimsonsurrender · 22-06-2007, 02:38 PM

I like the idea of the What if section. By the way if you want a hand with any bio's i'd be happy to write one for you.
PM me if you need any help :)

ikle me · 22-06-2007, 03:37 PM

Wow! *brain explodes from many good ideas*

I have a free weekend this weekend (rather rare!) and I am going to start hammering out these ideas, PLEASE keep going though the more the merrier!

If anyone wants to start writing their bios, or any articles, or have any links PLEASE email them to me at ikle_me@recoveryourlife.com as my email box is about the safest place to hold this stuff currently :P

ikle me · 22-06-2007, 03:38 PM

And thank you for my medal *blush*

Think I may put it in my profile :D

ikle me · 22-06-2007, 05:50 PM

Right ideas put forward so far:

Biographies
Bullying [cyber/school etc]
Abuse [abuse/physical and more focused look at emotional]
What if's... [how to report/getting checked in hospital/defending yourself]
Grounding Techniques
Links
Telling family/friends

Keep them coming :)

ikle me · 23-06-2007, 01:53 PM

Okay I have just spent my Saturday morning shifting 30 plus articles around, brain death!

I am now requesting people with good writing skills/experience in writing articles to stand forward. I need a huge amount of bullying and abuse based articles so NO BEING TRIGGERED easily is essential. Last thing I want is something I'm doing to upset one of you.

If people want to help out, but do not want to write articles I am in DESPERATE need for biographies and links, these can obviously be sent either via PM or email: ikle_me@recoveryourlife.com

Please people this isn't a one man band, I need some article writers!

ikle me · 23-06-2007, 04:05 PM

Definitely want I want, thank you!

Stellata · 23-06-2007, 04:07 PM

My bio's in V2, if you want to snitch it from there, I am happy for that to go in.

ikle me · 23-06-2007, 04:15 PM

*looks innocent*

I hadn't already grabbed it and put it on priority list to go up...honest!

:P