Hi I'm new here, so if this post is on the wrong forum apologies. I was just wondering if you self injure do your parents know? And when they found out what did you say? I've been self harming for 3 years now and my parents haven't a clue and was thinking of telling them. . .
I was living in a childrens home when I started. I was took to hospital a lot. When I had moved back to my Mums I was angry that she'd put so much stress on me, so I wanted to tell her what I done. I told her and my Step Dad, it was awful. She cried, blamed it on herself.
I show'ed my Dad, all the old cuts & scars on my legs, stomach and arms. He thought it was awful. He was disgusted. I always cover them up now. No one see's.
To be honest I wish I never told them.
However, ever story & case is different.
I tell people to tell thier parents so they're parents can help them.
Just in my case, it was a bad idea.
I hope it all goes well,
worthless x
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My parents found out, they went through my room and found my diary.
It destroyed them at first, they was more upset at the fact I didn't go to them and tell them, because it's what parents are there for.
I think you are really brave to think about telling your parents, I know how hard it can be, but it will be easier for them to find out this way.
Cause lets face it, self harm isn't something that can be hidden for very long and 3 years is already an awfully long time!
Writing a letter or just biting the bullet and talking to them about it would be the best way to go if you feel brave enough to do that?
Btw- Think about what you want to gain from then knowing... Like do you want them to help you? Or just simply know about it?And remember their reaction may not go as planned... because after all it is something they probably don't expect their own family member to be doing and probably have very little understanding of what it actually is. But if you have some info ready for them and are ready to answer some questions that may be piled on you, then I'm sure it will be just fine.
All the best,
Take care. =]
~Beauty without intellence, is a materpiece painted on a napkin.~
My parents found out, but not through my own choice.
My mum found out because my counsellor became alerted of plans of mine to leave the family home and live with a friend [long story] so when my counsellor told my mum about that, she decided to add that I SI, too. Without even bothering to verify the facts with me beforehand [aforementioned counsellor was just going by the fact that a 'friend' of mine told her]. So when my mum discovered, she told my dad.
They weren't too impressed, to say the least. Mum was all 'how does this help? D:' when she asked to see my arms, and my dad took me for a long walk and a talk. Awkward stuffs!
My parents dont know that i SI, but that is mainly because i dont know how to tell them and am now at uni, also because not many other people know and none of them are likely to tell them. I would like to tell my mun about it some day, just so she understands me better, but i just havent yet. I guess i am scared of how they'll respond really and not sure why i want them to know other than the fact they're my parents.
Everyone needs someone to lean on, so lets stand in a circle and all lean on each other. That way no one will fall down.
Thanks everyone :]
I have been quite lucky I guess. In April my pe teacher saw my cuts and made me tell her where they were from, even though it was obvious! Luckily they didn't phone home, they told the teacher that was in charge of self harming and I have to go see my pe teacher once a week to see how I'm going. So I guess I did quite well. I'm not sure about telling my mum and dad just yet, I have no idea what there reactions would be and it'll take me a while to tell them what I need to say.
Thanks everyone x
I usually have long sleeve shirts but obviously with pe there are no shirts, just polo tops. I am glad that I do have an adult to talk to about it and this teacher I get on well with so I guess I am glad they found out.
My parents know it. At first things were fine, but now things are bad. but its so worth it to tell them. you will feel relieved when you do.
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do parents get protective by searching your room for blades or checking where you cut every five seconds? I don't think I'd want that, I don't need therapy either I don't think people on here seem to have worse problems than me and I'm getting used to the whole distant parents thing
I didnt tell my dad, i hated the thaught of him knowing because it was something that had nothing to do with him. But i tryed to kill my self with an overdose of paracetamol and ended up in hospital then the doctors and nurses saw it and everything came out.
I guss its worth telling them, most people say its much easier once you have. My family was realy shocked and upset, i guess id be if i had kids.
I posted something similiar asking about parents finding out etc a couple of weeks ago (http://www.recoveryourlife.com//foru...ad.php?t=70651) thought a couple of responses were really good, could be worth a look?
Anyway, my parents don't know. I think at times about telling them, but then I always begin to question why I actually want to tell them. Do I want help? (No.) Are they likely to be supportive / helpful and understanding? (No!) Am I really going to achieve anything through telling them, other than making them get angry at me, act differently towards me and patronise me? (No.)
So on the basis of that I have decided that telling them is going to cause problems and not solve any and I decided against it.
My advice on the subject to you as you seem to be in a similar position, is to consider what you will get out of telling your parents. You've said you don't want help, which is something that telling your parents could lead to you getting if they react in a positive way, but on the other hand they could be like my parents and just give you a mouthful along the lines of "Why are you being so stupid, you have no reason to do that, what possible problems can you have?"
I know it's not a nice situation to be in having to lie to people, but from the sounds of it, you have the teacher that you can speak to about things, which is sometimes I guess why people want to tell their parents. However, it might be a huge weight off of your shoulders telling them.
Wow this makes no sense. Erm... I guess to make it short, I would just say, consider what you would want to get out of telling them and whether you would be able to cope if they didn't react in a positive manner. It might help you decide a bit easier =)
well mum found out through school
but dad well one night i was doing something and so was he mum said right dad knows somethings up and i wanna tell him but with you so we went into dads computer room and told him i cut my arms thats all he went y and i walked off there and then
do parents get protective by searching your room for blades or checking where you cut every five seconds? I don't think I'd want that, I don't need therapy either I don't think people on here seem to have worse problems than me and I'm getting used to the whole distant parents thing
That never happened with me. When my dad took me for the aforementioned 'walk and talk', he asked if a mark he'd seen before that I'd passed off as a shaving accident was actually SI, so I owned up to that. He didn't really mention it again.
My mum, however, was more irritating. She'd try and get me to spill the intimate details of my counselling sessions to her, and every once in a while would ask to see my arms, and I never really felt like I had it within me to say no
my parents know i have self harmed. went psycho on me, and i ended up cutting myself the worst i ever had done right there infront of them :| not the cleverist thing i have done tbh!
they think i have been clean for 2 years now :|
I may or may not tell them again..but my parents aren't the understanding sort, despite the fact one of thems mentally breaking down every day and off ill with it and the others got more family history of mental illness than I have toes.
