I find that just being aware of yourself becoming too quickly attached to someone can help you self-regulate a bit. On the one hand, being able to quickly connect with people is a great social skill, so use that to your advantage! In terms of this relationship, maybe try to force yourself to take things a bit more slowly than you would naturally want to, if you can feel yourself getting too attached. I don't mean ignore him for days on end, but just trying small things like if you've been talking via text or online for a while, tell him you're taking a break for dinner and then not looking at your phone whilst eating and also for a bit after eating (read a book for 20 mins, or tell yourself 'I'm not looking at my phone until I've spent 20 mins watching this programme').
I think definitely go for it. It's a horrible feeling knowing that there's a chance you're going to get hurt again, but if we never took that chance we'd never find things worth holding onto, so for me the risk has always been worth it.
Perhaps if you do get together with this guy, when you feel ready you could bring this up and hopefully he'll be understanding and help you learn to manage your emotions at times when you're not together.
Oh, and make sure you have lots of distractions prepared for times when you won't be able to talk to him so that you've got things to focus on when you might start struggling with separation anxiety.
Hope that helps a bit!
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