Relationship and seperation anxiety??
 

I have fallen for a guy.. who also most likely likes me. Which is great. But my problem is that I often too quickly connect with people, and then have a hard time being away from then (and not talking to them for a period of time). I am afraid that he might not be able to accept that, and help me with my problem.. Because of that I'm afraid to even try to get him or anyone else...
A part of me wants to let go and try, but then there's a part of me that don't want to get hurt again.. Please, if you have the same problem og just have any advice please tell me what to do... I am in desperate need of help or I might loose him, or hurt both him and myself..

I find that just being aware of yourself becoming too quickly attached to someone can help you self-regulate a bit. On the one hand, being able to quickly connect with people is a great social skill, so use that to your advantage! In terms of this relationship, maybe try to force yourself to take things a bit more slowly than you would naturally want to, if you can feel yourself getting too attached. I don't mean ignore him for days on end, but just trying small things like if you've been talking via text or online for a while, tell him you're taking a break for dinner and then not looking at your phone whilst eating and also for a bit after eating (read a book for 20 mins, or tell yourself 'I'm not looking at my phone until I've spent 20 mins watching this programme').

I think definitely go for it. It's a horrible feeling knowing that there's a chance you're going to get hurt again, but if we never took that chance we'd never find things worth holding onto, so for me the risk has always been worth it.

Perhaps if you do get together with this guy, when you feel ready you could bring this up and hopefully he'll be understanding and help you learn to manage your emotions at times when you're not together.

Oh, and make sure you have lots of distractions prepared for times when you won't be able to talk to him so that you've got things to focus on when you might start struggling with separation anxiety.

Hope that helps a bit!

Thank you! That really helped me to rethink the whole situation. I will try to go slow, and not get too anxious about everything if we dont talk for some time, or even some days. Things like this takes time for both him and me, so going slow might help me figure out all of this emotional mess

Again THANK you!