This.
But then, couldn't this very quickly become the same as general support?
Which is why I think it old be good as a subsection of general support - so for things like housing, uni, marriage, kids and stuff.... Still general advice, but sort of the the 'next stage' of life kind of questions.
Which is why I think it old be good as a subsection of general support - so for things like housing, uni, marriage, kids and stuff.... Still general advice, but sort of the the 'next stage' of life kind of questions.
I don't like that idea at all - I think that would attract far too few replies, even less than vets currently, and move even slowly and people would give up on it. It's too specific. I like vets and I want it to stay, and if merging vets general and support would help that then I think we should try it.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break
that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.
There are only two ways in which one can live their life. One is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is.
I don't like the idea of merging. Take the chat room 3 for example, when there's too much general chat people get annoyed and i think that there is a high risk of that happening should they be merged
We need people who were members when it was merged to post their thoughts, I don't know how many are still around though.
I remember I brought up an idea once in a previous discussion about having thread labels to avoid people hijacking serious threads with annoying general posts. I think it's easier to keep support threads serious in a forum as opposed to in chat where it's basically a free-for-all discussion.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break
that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.
There are only two ways in which one can live their life. One is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is.
I'm pretty sure that this was a trial and a vote was done after a few months but I can't find this thread though I've only had a cursory glance!
I'm really a vets lurker but would hate to see vets go and if people think it
should be merged then fine but splitting it up and making it a subforum of other boards will just kill it in my view!
This thread has had in my mind a few of the main vets but not many and I think a discussion like this is fine but any real decision thread should take place in vets as they are the members who will make the decision
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I was around when Vets was split and at the time there were alot more vets and support posts were being lost among the more general thing so the split to general and support was to stop posts being lost. Alot of the vets around then have left and there isn't as many.
I think if you merge vets back into the general population that most of the vets will leave. I know I can't stand posting in serious discussion because alot of the posts strike me as almost whiney and it annoys me. So I ignore that forum. I stick to vets and occasionaly general.
Why merge it? It's not hurting anyone. I can't remember when vets was ever not there. And I don't see how having it as a sub section under something else like Abuse and bullying would be much different then what it is now?
I fail to see the point of merging it back, unless you actually want older members to leave. other than that... what is the point?
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I liked it pre-split, but every tme you mess with vets you lose a few more members... so leave it, please. My opinion. I used to love to come to vets as a recovering sh, now its more focused as 18+ but I still stay here instead of elsewhere, having young kids the rest of ryl moves too quickly, I miss stuff, threads fall off pages, I like the atmosphere - you can always get hugs, cookies, coffee and pink dress wearing camels still have their place, at least in my heart.
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
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I remember when it was Ruin and we changed to Recover. Vets was created because a few us wanted a place where we could post for support and fun amongst our peers. RYL back then was very "young" and most people were teenagers. We wanted a place where we could discuss more adult topics because those topics usually dropped fast off the pages in the rest of the forums.
I don't mean to alienate younger members in any way but to me it means a lot to have a specific place here on RYL where i can go and ask for support from members closer to my age or older. I have always valued vets as a place to get this.
Should vets be closed down i don't think i would ask for support anymore because to me vets is "my safe place", the place where i can connect with people my age and recieve support from someone who has actually been there as opposed to someone who hasn't. If we should merge vets to keep it then do, i'd rather we didn't, but if that is what it'll take to keep it then better that than no vets at all.
Vets might seem cliquey to some but we do actually welcome new posters. I don't post much myself there but we have a lot of people who joined when they were teenagers who are now adults and i think it would be a totally awesome thing to have some of you start posting in vets and bring it back to life, so to speak :)
But please keep vets. WE fought hard to get it and it is an important part of RYL. And some of us really ancient people are still around who remembers what is what like before vets were created.
I think vets should go back to being the one board like it was on v2. I know I would be more likely to post in there more if there was just the one board to visit instead of two (general and support).
Actually - could we just have v2 back in general please?
this is my personal view (as someone that never went in vets in v2 and has mostly been alerted to it from a moderating stand point on v3), not the view of the moderators as a whole at all.
As i see it, the forum is split into seperate sections so that those needing support dont have their thread bumped from the main page, and those looking for general chat/a distraction arent triggered or whatever.
im not sure that i think it should be any different in vets. I belive from what ive read, that those that frequent it have triggers and such, and also that they deserve to have their threads viewed by as many people as possible in order to get the best support possible, not have it pushed off page one by threads about random stuff.
I don't particularly want them to be merged either because of the risk of swamping support threads with general chat ones, but if it's a choice between losing vets, tacking it onto another forum as an "adult issues" thing or merging, I'd go for merging. I know that we aren't looking at losing vets at this stage but I thought I'd bring this up now in light of the way vets is in the limelight at the mo.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break
that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.
There are only two ways in which one can live their life. One is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is.
I hardly use vets, never did on V2 cause I was under 18 at the time...I mainly use vets now for the baby support thread...Always forget to see the support board when I'm ever in Vets. Tbh, I don't see how merging vets together will make the board more used. If people can offer support then they will. I'm not as much of a regular user as I was previously because of the changes in my lifestyle so I barely offer support now, just come on to read what I feel like reading.
I agree with Charlie. I'd hate to post something for support only to see general threads getting replies and pushing mine down - as support threads are generally more difficult to reply to and have fewer replies as it is.
Please do not merge the general and support sections of Vets. I am very careful which sections of RYL I look at at certain times (and not just on Vets, but the entire of the site) and the merging of them would just make this so much more difficult.
Roiben x
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