Anyone else?

PhoenixAshies · 27-06-2010, 07:13 AM

I'm just curious as to if anyone else has this problem.

It seems that I just can't really make friends. I moved back to the city I grew up in after college (wasn't so thrilled about that), and it just seems like, for whatever reason, I don't really have any friends here. I have my co-workers, but I don't really see them outside of work (I'm also the youngest one here, by about 15 years). The aquaintances I do have haven't seemed to grow put of the "drink until I black out every weekend" stage of their lives, or they have stopped calling or communicating at all now that I'm on night shift (even though they know when I'm off). I'm not really a barfly type person, and I'm not partictularly outgoing either. Add to that my low self esteem, and it's no wonder I spend mist of my time alone :/

Eh, I dunno. It's just lonely most of the tome, with just me. I was wondering if any of you had a similar problem? Any suggestions?

wolfos3d · 27-06-2010, 07:20 AM

I have the same thing going on really. As soon as I stopped wanting to go out and get blind drunk and hang out at the pub every weekend I've had practically no calls from friends to hang out except from one close friend. I see a few of my friends every week since I'm in class with them but none of them ever make an effort to hang out with me outside of class. I currently have two weeks off and no one to hang out with. :( It's going to be boring and lonely.

Sigma · 30-06-2010, 12:50 PM

I struggle with that too - what helps for me is getting involved in activities with people, dance class and some voluntary work. I find it easier to start a conversation when I'm alongside the same people each week and have a topic of conversation given us because we're doing something together

ihaverabbits · 01-07-2010, 02:09 PM

i have the same problem. i'm really good at being friendly, but when it comes to actually making friends, such as people who want to do things with me, or just hang out, it never seems to materialize.

A_Stealthy_Badger · 01-07-2010, 02:24 PM

I'm hearing you on fm phoenix.

I moved to Folkestone in 2008 and have had no luck making friends. I socialize now and then with my OH's friends, but it's not the same. I'm just not the sort of person who feels comfortable striking up a conversation with a stranger. Also, don't feel able to socialize with anyone at work as I am their boss. Besides, anyone I meet gets sl*gged off by my OH :(

PoisonedApple · 02-07-2010, 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by A_Stealthy_Badger

I'm hearing you on fm phoenix.

I moved to Folkestone in 2008 and have had no luck making friends. I socialize now and then with my OH's friends, but it's not the same. I'm just not the sort of person who feels comfortable striking up a conversation with a stranger. Also, don't feel able to socialize with anyone at work as I am their boss. Besides, anyone I meet gets sl*gged off by my OH :(

*feels oblivious* OH? This is probably something blindingly obvious but I can't seem to figure it out right now...

I have a similar problem phoenix. No suggestions, sorry. But I wanted you to know I understand.

A_Stealthy_Badger · 02-07-2010, 11:33 AM

OH = Other Half :)

PoisonedApple · 02-07-2010, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by A_Stealthy_Badger

OH = Other Half :)

Yeah I knew it was blindingly obvious... lol

Bacchus · 03-07-2010, 05:42 PM

I have much the same problem, but mine is self caused as when ever I meet people they almost always seem to annoy me. So I don't hang out with anybody but my wife too often.
But my wifes like to sociolize and she has met a lot of people at the theatres. She is a director and actor and that is how she meets people.
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swirlyblue · 06-07-2010, 12:00 AM

i suffer from the same problem. i don't think i've made a new friend in 5 years. it seems my circle of friends is actually an ever decreasing spiral!

***Mark*** · 08-07-2010, 09:47 PM

I know exactly how you feel. I find it really difficult to break the ice when it comes down to speaking to people if I meet them outside of work.

I have no issues talking to clients, but when it comes down to introducing myself to a random person in a bar say, I shy away and would rather sit in the corner like a little mouse....not easy when your 6ft 3 and probably intimidating to look at!