I can relate to that, I have aspergers and I also find that alcohol makes things seem easier. Though I am fairly sure it doesn't actually make me "fit in" more, it just makes me feel less like an outcast...
I don't have a whole lot of advise though I'm afraid
eventually you will find people who can deal with the social quirks that come with aspergers and who won't "go off" you or get offended by you accidently or any of the other things (it's the accidently insulting people one that I seem to have the biggest issue with, oh and boring people as I never know when they are sick of a topic and so will keep talking lol)
There are a lot of websites and books about with advise for people with aspergers on how to socialise and things, might be worth looking into ?