Mildly Triggering (ED) - Compliments - How to Handle Them?

-Asphyxia- · 07-03-2009, 06:42 PM

I don't handle compliments well in general, but last night, I went out with some girlfriends from school; they kept complimenting me on my figure and such. Of course I said thank you, but in my head I'm thinking about all of my flaws and telling myself it's all a joke...

Then I felt guilty about eating our food (we all shared an appetizer) - I should have had something anyways b/c I had a bit to drink and not much to eat during the day. So as I'm eating, I'm having this constant loop in my head telling me they're lying to me and that I shouldn't be eating this or I'll get fat...

Now I"m really down about it. I know my reactions are stupid and illogical, but I don't know how to stop the negative thoughts.

How do you handle compliments? How do you believe themwithout letting the negative thoughts take over?

Kelly* · 07-03-2009, 06:50 PM

i'd like to know how too. :\

Lil'MissLaLa · 07-03-2009, 07:23 PM

*hugs* i can relate to this alot. I guess the only way to really accept them is to trust that your friends arent going to lie to you, else they wouldnt be friends in the first place.
x

Buttons. · 07-03-2009, 07:37 PM

I really relate, however what I try and do is say to myself is 'well what would be the point in them lying? why would they waste the effort? all they had to do was keep silent if they didn't have anything good to say' :)

lamestate · 07-03-2009, 09:52 PM

I just smile and say thanks - I don't have to believe it, after all.

HopeRises · 07-03-2009, 10:07 PM

I think everyone has this covered with, why would they lie?
Tackle the negative thoughts by playing "why would they lie" straight back at it and see if that helps?

I also have problems accepting compliments but i'm learning to accept them more now.
Stay Safe and Take Care
Leighxxx

PvblikSuicide · 08-03-2009, 02:20 AM

I guess if you can't accept a compliment the best thing is to just say "thank you" then let it pass. Try not to think about it anymore. Try to pretend it didn't happen. That way you won't have to worry about it being a lie or not. I have problems taking compliments a lot myself, but i've gotten better over the years. Sometimes something that also helps is to look for one thing in the compliment that you could maybe agree with. But I guess that all depends on the compliment.

_plastic · 09-03-2009, 11:48 AM

Alot of people compliement my figure and tell me i look perfect and such,

I laugh, thank them.

But in my head i feel so bad cuz i can't make myself beleive it

Stay strong xx