Does it go away?

Adr1an · 01-09-2015, 12:13 PM

Hey, its been a while.
Last week I went 8 days without hurting myself and I thought maybe I had just grown out of it or something and I was happy about it and then it all came back the last couple days and it feels worse than before even. I hurt myself worse and have just been more depressed. Today was the worst i have been excet for about a week ago when i was suicidal, thankfully im not tha bad now. Anyway so I was wondering do you eventually just stop or what because I didnt think you could and then I thought maybe you can but now it seems not again :/.

OverEmotional · 01-09-2015, 04:03 PM

Hey Adrian? Im sorry you are going through this right now! Have you family and/or friends you can talk to about all this that can support you? Are you currently receiving any professional support? If not, then maybe you would find this really helpful right now?
I think the majority of people need help in this kind of situation as cold turkeying it may keep it at bay for a while but if you are using it to cope with intense emotions then the feeling will keep returning unless you learn how to manage those emotions in a more healthier way.
Was there a stressful situation that lead to you cutting after the 8 days free? Maybe you could make an appointment with your local GP and tell him you would like to see someone about it? It can seem very daunting but it can feel like a weight off your shoulders just knowing you've made that first step.

michael james · 02-09-2015, 04:51 PM

Hi
Sorry to read you are struggling. Self-harm is a battle that can last for months even years, but it is also a battle you can win. With help, understanding and good support it is possible to live a life free of self-harm. I wish you all the best, ask for help, you can do it.
From Michael

Adr1an · 02-09-2015, 09:54 PM

Thanks Michalel :)
and over emotional thx too. Yeah I have a friend I can talk to if I need to but thats about as far as I have gotten. Yes I was having a few stressful situatios all at the same time. It can be so hard to deal with everything sometimes, but yes talking to a friend does help even if its not about my felf-harm.

Adr1an · 21-09-2015, 12:27 PM

Does anyone else have answers? I feel so helpless, and depressed. I just want this all to end nothing is fun and that is not fun either. I just cant make myself stay away from my sh. I saw a therapist and they didnt help me much at all then they said that I dont really need to go back. So I hit another dead end, which I am used to. Is there a silver lining to every cloud or just some. Will I grow out of this or something? I dont know, his may help or may not but this is a bit more about me if that helps with answering. http://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum...d.php?t=234082 . If you can relate to any of this by the way please tell me, I dont know maybe its just me. Sorry if this is confusing i dont know how to put it into words properly but i tried...Anyway thanks for reading.

Amaryllis · 21-09-2015, 06:31 PM

Yes and no. It is possible to gradually stop self harming. What you need to do though is make an effort instead of just hoping it will happen.

Some people pick a date. I didn't because that didn't work for me. What I did was when I wanted to hurt myself, I tried to identify those feelings and then deal with them another way. Maybe that might work?

It might be worth trying a different therapist. It can take some trying to get the right one for you.

MyLastKiss · 22-09-2015, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Adr1an

Does anyone else have answers?

I'm not sure if I have any good answer on your question. Aside from a few minor slips I haven't slipped in 5 month (after 5 years of SI). Urges haven't really left me, but somehow it has been more complicated to do it than to not.
During this time I've been urge-free during periods when I've been occupied with horse riding, physical and challenging occupation that seem to bite the head out the SI-wish. For me riding gives a feeling of being close to life and my body - something that cutting otherwise do for me.
Riding include big animals/big lives, danger, thrills, control, pain, focus .....
Riding is the only thing that have kept me out of the habit from time to time. Off course riding is an expensive, but maybe there's something out there for u.
Hope u find whats your thing.

Adr1an · 18-11-2015, 12:22 PM

So would I be right to assume that while I may always have urges to SI I might be able to find something bigger that I can block it out with? And if you guys dont mind me asking how is it more complicated to SI than not to?
please feel free at this point ill take help from anyone, lol :/