Ho-how do I get people to like me...? I feel like no one on this site likes me... Am I doing something bad...? What is it...? All I want is friends and support... I try my best to pay it forward, too... If I see a person I can give advice to, I do it... I even try to check up on them every once in a while... What do I do to make people not like me on RYL...? I've been really scared to ask, but now, I've gotten the courage to ask you guys what I'm doing wrong... Please don't hate me for asking... I'm just trying to be better at not pissing off anyone who is willing to help...
Major Depression | Asperger's Syndrome | Anxiety NOS | Hints of OCD
Close your eyes. Don't you cry. Love's around you. In time, you'll fly. Don't you worry about the dark. I will light up the night with the love in my heart. I will burn like the sun that will keep you safe and warm. Like the smell of a rose on a summer's day, I will be there to take all your fears away. With the touch of my hand, I will turn your life to GOLD!
I've never spoken to you, but I doubt there's people that hate you.
If you're worried about not having friends, try and reply more to threads and offer people more support if you can.
There's also the option of using chat, if you don't already use it. There's usually a large amount of people in there and we always try and include everyone in the conversations that we are having.
I dont get it....all of your threads get responses so Im not sure why you feel like you're lacking support...can you explain more?
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
Sometimes my Serious Threads seem to turn into Rant Threads cause it's just seems to be me talking to myself because no one replies after so many posts... But I'm trying to take people's advice on staying to one Serious Thread... How do you do that when people stop replying or looking and everything just becomes a misplaced Rant Thread...?
I do use chat; I just end up feeling uncomfortable sometimes or I get bored.
Last edited by LizzieRose : 28-02-2014 at 02:12 PM.
Major Depression | Asperger's Syndrome | Anxiety NOS | Hints of OCD
Close your eyes. Don't you cry. Love's around you. In time, you'll fly. Don't you worry about the dark. I will light up the night with the love in my heart. I will burn like the sun that will keep you safe and warm. Like the smell of a rose on a summer's day, I will be there to take all your fears away. With the touch of my hand, I will turn your life to GOLD!
That thread you linked us to- can you imagine if you were The Impossible Girl or talaiporia and you read this? They replied to your thread several times, and probably either got really busy, or thought that you seemed to want to just vent, or couldn't think of any more to say to you, and here you are saying that no one likes you and you don't get enough support, when they were there replying consistently.
You seem to have really high expectations for the quantity of relies you want, and those expectations could leave people feeling quite hurt, as when they try their best to support you, then get the message that they didn't try hard enough.
I'm not having a go at you at all, it's just a perspective it might be worth considering.
OP, I saw your signature. I have Asperger's Syndrome as well and often I misinterpret things from other people. I'm sure that people are trying to help, there aren't many mean people on this website at all.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
I don't hate you, for what it is worth, sometimes I am not great at helping out though but I wouldn't take it personally. Sometimes people just struggle to reply to specific threads, sometimes I don't get a lot of replies and it's tempting to take it personally but I don't think it's personal.
That thread you linked us to- can you imagine if you were The Impossible Girl or talaiporia and you read this? They replied to your thread several times, and probably either got really busy, or thought that you seemed to want to just vent, or couldn't think of any more to say to you, and here you are saying that no one likes you and you don't get enough support, when they were there replying consistently.
You seem to have really high expectations for the quantity of relies you want, and expectations could leave people feeling quite hurt, as when they try their best to support you, then get the message that they didn't try hard enough.
I'm not having a go at you at all, it's just a perspective it might be worth considering.
This.
Additionally: you tend to make a number of threads and bring up similar topics on them, or just make a new thread when people don't reply to one after a day or two. It can take people a while to even see your thread, never mind write a well thought-out reply. And while you have threads with few replies you also have at least one that got more replies than all of the threads I ever made combined.
I agree with what Jenna says about putting things into perspective and changing the way you think about things. You get lots of support overall, even when some of your threads don't get more than two replies.
(((Alex))) just wanted to let you know that I often read your threads and reply when I can. I'm struggling a bit at the moment and not the greatest with replies or with PMs but I do like you
So she lights up a candle for hope to be found
Captive and blind by the darkness around
Each wave a promise, a new hope reborn
Sunrise consoles at the break of dawn
Hiya I don't think anyone hates you at all,
Just because you might not get lots of replies it doesn't mean people haven't read and sympathise its just sometimes I read a thread and think yes i understand but i don't reply because either i'm not in a good place or someone else has said the exact same thing i'm thinking so i often leave a hug or if i pop back and see noone has replied then i will but also if its something i haven't experienced sometimes i won't reply because i feel its out of my field of knowledge and I might make things worse or something.
I think all of us have experienced not getting loads of replies but try not to take it personally because their are so many people on this site its hard for everyone to reply all the time thats all.
Rest assured you are heard and definetly not hated at all.
"And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back so shake him off."
