im really struggling at the moment because of peoples comments.
there is a lady that comes to my work, she loans a pony and comes to ride almost daily and she has taken to commenting on my weight everytime she sees me, even infront of others. its making me really uncomfortable.
She keeps saying im getting thinner (which im not, really, im not), she gave me a pair of jeans a while back and she saw me wearing them the other day and commented on them being a bit loose and how i make her jealous. she keeps asking if im 'still losing weight'.
my dad also keeps making comments, i bought a camera the other week and spent all my savings on it. he commented saying that i could only afford it because im not eating, which isnt even ****ing true.
For one, he hasnt seen me in god knows how long, secondly, i spend a ridiculous amount on food but i just dont do it infront of him for obvious reasons.
It's bugging me because now i feel i should be losing weight, i cant explain it, but it makes me want to stop eating altogether and then i can just be like, 'well, whatever'.
but i am not trying to lose weight, infact, ive been binging more than usual. im all over the place with it.
im too much of a wimp to say something to the lady, she doesnt know about my problem as i dont talk about it and i dont want her to ask any more questions.
any ideas on how to deal with this? im sorry this is so much of a ramble, ive been ill the last couple of days and im feeling rubbish.
Hey,
I just want to say it is not any of the people at yours works buisness to comment on your weight whether you gain or lose.
Your dad is only looking out for you. although he may have not seen you for a while he jsut probably trying to make conversation and making a joke of it. I know it upsets you but take no notice of it.
Why do you feel by people saying your thin that you want to lose weight? If you were fine with the way you looked before then does it matter what people say? Unless you know that they are right that you are getting thinner and this is your way in crying out for help?
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You're not alone,darling. I get so many comments from everyone, even from random people I don't know.It's triggering, I know. But I've learnt how to ignore them. It's the best solution. Instead of over-analyzing them, which would make my anxiety go HIGH, I just ignore them and try to forget them, which is very hard, because they stick on my mind.I hate their stares and comments, but there's nothing I can do, except try to recover.
Good luck! :)
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Easier said than done, but just ignore it. I am the same way, I just recently stopped restricting, and now when someone comments on me looking good, it makes me want to restrict again. You just have to remember that it is unsafe to rely on what other people tell you, usually.
Take care, keep strong
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