So i have been going over this in my head for the past few weeks and I'm wanting to know what you guys think or what your answers would be.
(Question) Who do you wish found out about your self harm and why do you want them to know?
It also can be a person that already knows but i just want to see some other peoples responses.
Mine would have to be my Biology teacher in 10th grade. Reason...Because i trusted him enough and at that time i was just to scared to tell him i just wanted him to figure it out and come to me about it....that kind of sounds selfish.
But what i mean is i was still in denial about being a self harmer. I just needed someone to point it out to me...I'm a bit hard headed.
I think I'm pretty lucky, the four people who know are/were some of the most supportive to me. 3 (one of whom I no longer speak to, we've tried restarting our friendship but it just didn't work out) are former SI-ers, the other is my boyfriend. When the first found out, she told me it was ok, she'd been there and actually was the reason for me stopping. The others were the same. When I told my boyfriend, he told me he'd accept me no matter what.
What I really wish, though, is that someone had noticed and actually reached out to me when I first started. It was incredibly hurtful to discover that I was known as "that depressed girl" in high school - not because people knew, but because they knew and decided I wasn't worth helping.
Great thread- I am really lucky as those who know have accepted it and my BF is just amazing about it.
I think I would like my Mum and Dad to find out. Because I would like to know that they accept me no matter what. But I won't tell the because I am scared of what they might say. I'm scared to hurt them. I'm scared my Mum will label me 'Carzy' like she did to my friend a few years back who she found out SH'ed/ Boo :(
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The people I would most want to find out already know. Well, besides my sister. If I had to tell anyone and ask for help it'd be her. I'd just hate to hurt and disappoint her.
2 people know. I don't talk to one person about it. The other tries her best to be supportive.
The one person who will NOT talk to me about it.. I wish she would... But I'd never bring it up :(
As for why? Because I think I'd feel better if she knew... :(
Honestly, I'd just prefer that my BF, who does know about it, would discuss it with me. Great question, by the way! But...someone who doesn't already know? Hmmmm...
Ya know, I'm gonna have to go with my boyfriend's brother, as weird as that sounds. I say that partially because he's always been lovely to me (even though I know he's actually sort of a brat) and I've noticed that one of his very close friends has the same problem, so I feel like maybe he'd understand a little more.
Then again, knowing me, I'll probably come up with a better answer later...^^;
"You cannot take what you have not given, and you must give yourself." -Shevek, The Dispossessed(Ursula K. LeGuin)
Everyone that I wanted to know already knows. All of the friends that I told has left apart from two, but the others that I have told are still by my side helping me fight through this. But if I had to chose someone to tell it would have to be my Principal. That sounds weird, but when I used to be in high school he always supported me and was there for me so I wish I could turn to him now and ask him for help, but I know that will never happen, haha.
I'd like to tell a few of my classmates. However I'm deathly afraid that, that type of information would spread like wildfire. I already have the reputation for being a crazy person. Apparently I have crazy eyes, whatever that means. I don't also want to be known as a "cutter".
Great question!
I wanted my friend to know for a long time. She's a year older than me and literally like my older sister and i wanted her to know because i did tell her everything apart from that and i felt bad for hurting her because if i was upset about it i could never tell her why. Because obviously she didn't know! But i told her in the end and i'm glad i did because now she understands more, i get why she doesn't really want to discuss it with me because i guess she feels pretty uncomfortable but shes said that she's always there if i need her and she will talk about it if i really really need her. So yeah! (:
Someone who i want to know but doesn't........
No-one at the minute.
*HUGS* to everyone x
I told my Psychology teacher when I was 15 and I wouldn't change it.
I wouldn't be where I am today (although it may not be a good place), and I wouldn't be who I am now. I had my regrets about telling her but I guess it all worked out in the end.
Now, only 2 people in real life know I'm still self-harming and I wouldn't have it any other way. I don't feel like people need to know so, I don't have the urge to tell..
I know where you're coming from though.. I felt like this before I told my teacher..
I hope you're okay.
One of the only people who knows I still self harm is one of the people I would wish for. She has been so good even though we're not close and I like the fact that she knows what to say and how to practically help with my depression rather than just telling me it will all be ok in the end.
I wish a couple of teachers in secondary school had found out because I would have appreciated the constructive support back then.
My college tutor found out pretty late, and he didn't press the issue. I kind of wish he had because I was alone at college.
Right now I wish that there was someone that I could wish would find out but I don't know of anybody that would care.
"this is the room where you don't have to be brave"
i want him to know. i want him to know why i dont want him touching me, why im not myself. i want him to know whats changed. but i know it would only hurt him and he would just be so concerned and blame himself. i want him to know but i dont. i wouldnt even know where to start. i feel myself heading toward recovery so im holding off on telling him unless i think its as bad of a problem as it was in the past months. but i think he would be disappointed/concerned, and its not a good feeling knowing you're the cause of their pain
This is a very hard question.
I'm not sure of the answer, if I'm honest. I suppose I wish people who had found out had understood more. I probably wish that I had let more people in, allowed more people to help me.
I can't quite fathom an answer.
I wish I had never told anyone but my friend Kat. She's without a doubt, the best friend I've ever had! The other people who know have done nothing to try to understand or learn how to help. Those relationships have been forever changed, for the worse. Kat though, is amazing! I wish I had known! I woulda gone to her in the first place. Then I could have my cake n eat it too. I'd have her for support and still have my other friends too.
Well most of my friends know at this stage, but I wish they had of known since the start, and not a year and a half after I started.
At this moment in time, I wish my Psychologist/Psychiatrist knew, they know about my ED, but they don't know about SHing.
I wish they knew because, I was free for 10 months so I never thought it was an issue because I was able to stop by myself for 10 months, and even though I know 10 months in an achievement, I wish they had've known so I didn't resort back to SH and I'd be a year free now.
I also wish they knew because I want to find ways to cope with the urges etc, I used to be able to, but at the moment, I just can't find it in me to cope with them.
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