Hey everyone i was waundering who has actually told there parents about you Self harming or not because im too scared to and i was waundering if anyone else hasnt told there parents.
I've cut since I was quite young, 12 maybe. My mum now knows, I didn't tell her, but I didn't cover my scars hoping she'd see - which she did. We talked about it & it was kinda nice that she understood. That said, I'm 23 now... It has taken me the best part of 11 years to actually come clean.
I think it depends on your parents, how do you think they'd react? I know my dad's reaction would trigger me, so he doesn't know. I suppose there's no right answer as it depends on you & your parents.
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i have left my arm uncovered but i think my mum has noticed but not said anything and i dont have a clue how she would react thats why im scared of her knowing.
And my dad he would freak but my mum and dad tell eachover everything i really dont know what to do :/ x
i kept it secret for a long time. until i went to see a councelor on my own and she decided to tell my parents against my will. so i was there when they found out, but didn't actually have to say anything. i was a pretty big mess cause of stuff the councelor had said
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When my mum found out it wasn't my choice, and it went horrible. I think it would have gone much better had I told her on my own. I think it was sort of a shock to her, so I don't really blame her for her reaction.
I only told my mum a few weeks ago and her reaction was sympathy, not anger.
There are loads and loads of people who haven't told their parents so you're not alone :)! And if you ever want to say something, it helps if you kinda plan it out to make sure you know what to say and that you're absolutely ready to do it.
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Hi,
I haven't told my parents. I have SI'd since I was 18 and I'm now 29. I have friends who know and my fiancee knows but my parents as far as I am aware don't.
I'm sure they must have seen scars and there have been times when I've had to make excuses which I'm sure they didn't believe but it has never been openly discussed.
I think if you can tell them and you have a good relationship with them they can be a great source of support. My Mum has learnt to be a sounding board for me at times, although she doesn't know what a difference this has made in reducing my SI.
I think really it depends on you and your parents whether you tell them and how you go about telling them.
Best wishes.
Liz
I was 12 years old and another girl in my year group at school saw the cuts on my arms and being a self harmer herself instantly recognised what they were, she went running to a teacher who called me into their classroom and made me roll up my sleeves to reveal the many cuts on my arms. The school called in my parents, my dad being part of the problem sat there in silence while my mum cried. Then came the freak out part where she screamed at me for like 10 minutes and used the whole "how would you feel if i did that?" its 12 almost 13 years later and I'm still self harming on a daily basis, nothing is enough anymore.
My parents know. I told my mum over the phone, she was sorta understanding & my dad found out when I was in hospital so yeah ):
It's scary to tell your parents but sometimes you can feel a lot better after. But you're not alone, a lot of people haven't told their parents either. x
I have not told my parents although i want to. I feel guilty abut hiding it but my mum will just worry and she has enough going on. I think she would take it well at the time but not afterwards. i don't want to tell my dad
You're not alone, I'm 23 been SH ing on and off since I was 11- and my parents don't know- none of my family do. There's only a select few that know, and that wasnt by choice....
Its a hard thing to talk to people about. xxx
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I never told my parents, and i wish they never knew, but my bff stabbed me in the back and told my teacher who therefore told my parents. Truthfully its gotten worse since they found out, but it all depends on your family and how supportive they are of you.
My mum found out because I stupidly used the arm I had cut to stir something she was cooking and she saw it. But she or my dad don't know about any other ones that I did. But my last was 25 months ago.
I'm 25, and have never told my parents. I've never told anyone, except for people here. You're definitely not alone, and I can see why you'd be scared; the prospect of confessing something so complex and personal to your parents (who, even with the best intentions, may not have the best initial reactions) is enough to make a strong stomach quail. But...my mom died a few months ago, and now I'll never have the chance to actually tell her. It eats me up with regret that I kept such a big piece of my internal self from her until it was too late. I'm not trying to influence you here, I promise! I just wanted to offer a slightly different perspective. Maybe, on balance, your parents would rather know.
If you want to talk more, you can always hit me up.
It took me a long time to tell my parents. I wish I'd had the strength to tell them sooner but I couldn't handle it. It's been a long time since then and I'm pretty sure they think I've stopped but I haven't. I have however managed to tell my counselor.
