Triggering (Abuse) - it feels like a sham

pretty_in_pain · 14-08-2009, 05:59 PM

so pretty much the only way we communicate in our house is through shouting and insults. my parents rip me to pieces (emotionally) on a daily basis.

so now the good times we have are getting more and more few and far between. it was my 18th birthday yesterday and we had such a happy time as a family. but today the abuse is back.

all of my happy memories and experiences with my parents feel like a sham.

i dont even know the point of this thread, just, please make it better? please

xxxx

pretty_in_pain · 14-08-2009, 06:25 PM

somebody please just make it make sense. please

RemoteControl · 14-08-2009, 06:33 PM

i dont know how to make it make sense. but i just want you to know that i read your thread and i care. i know it can be really difficult living in a house where all there is is shouting and insults and abuse.

have you tried talking to your parents about this?

14-08-2009, 11:49 PM

do your parents know how much they're hurting you? I also used to live in a place where there was a lot of yelling. It's not fun. Can you take a break from them and stay at a friend's house or something?

pretty_in_pain · 15-08-2009, 03:39 PM

my parents wont listen to anyone, they think they're right about everything. they've shrugged off comments from myself, family, doctors, counsellors. they're not bothered.

and i tried to leave once. put it this way: i spoke to my parents over the phone whilst i was at my friend's, but if they'd have been in the same room i'd have been hurt
xx

loveishere · 16-08-2009, 09:47 PM

I can relate dear and I know it's horrible. you're 18, so can't you move out? Do you have any friends you can stay with or money for your own place? If you've tried talking to your parents and they don't listen, then they probably aren't going to change, which isn't fair.
The only thing you can do is take care of yourself, first by getting away from that if possible and just remember always that the things they say aren't true, I don't know what they are saying, but if they're insulting you that is them taking their crap out on you it has nothing to do with you as a person. take care, I know it's hard.