Being ok with never stopping?

[merriman_sisters]

I feel ok about never stopping self harm. In fact I believe I'll do it all my life and I know this is wrong, but i can't stop myself from thinking this way. :/ do you guys ever feel like that?

[Tig]

I think for a long time I believed that I would never be able to stop self harm so I did accept it in the end, and just became okay with it.

It turns out now that I find it hard to imagine self harming so things can and do change. x

[Celticroots]

At one point I believed as you did. And still do sometimes when things get tough. While I do think self-harm will be something I struggle with for the rest of my life, I do believe that not giving into urges will get easier. And I think I'll be able to go longer and longer periods without harming.

[Leo Pard]

For a long long time, I never wanted to stop, could never see myself stopping to be honest. But then things got better and I just didn't want/need to do it anymore so I did stop. That was over a year ago and the thought of doing has only crossed my mind when I have been very very drunk since. It might take 3 or 4 or 5 years but there might be a time when you just end up not doing it so much, eventually stopping and never looking back. Took me like 9 years to get to that point so yeah...

[Buttons.]

I felt like that once upon a time and sometimes still do, but generally I have reached a point where I want this big destructive thing out of my life.

[blanket.]

I'm the same as everyone else has said - at times I've felt totally fine thinking it'd be forever. But after a long time of it not being a major part of everything, it's more pleasant without it and I definitely don't want it to be forever. So I do understand the feeling but that feelings can change with time x

[Isabelv]

I'm in the same boat I've kind of accepted everything and just learned to live with it.

[chesterlily88]

I feel the same way too. I actually don't want to ever stop completely. I don't know why I don't do it more; I have no reason not to.

[RainbowVeins202]

I feel the exact same way. I think that's probably a coping mechanism, self injury is obviously a terrible thing and we know this, but it has helped so we have to make ourselves believe that it's an acceptable thing to do. I have days when I look down at my scars and feel physically ill at the damage I have done to myself, and that is so much harder to deal with than just thinking it's acceptable. I guess that's part of the reason it's so hard to stop, because why stop something that generally doesn't seem like it matters? I hope that you (and I) can realize that it is such a terrible thing and we need to stop.
Anyway... long story short, yes I feel the same way :P

[pixiedust_11]

I think that feeling of 'being ok with it' is more of a self-destructive acceptance that you may never be able to stop. But I and many other people know that's not true. It will take time but with the right help and support, you can change your mind set to believing that you really will get through the day without needing to give in to an urge. There's a general saying that you need to hit rock bottom before you can begin to improve again, I just hope that you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, because I can promise you there is some. It's just about finding it with the right level of self-belief.

[CBAatLife]

I feel pretty much the same only my problem is that a part of me wants to stop but a bigger part of me doesnt want to and every time some1 asks me if i wanna stop i just say no because i know that i am not gonna be able to stop