If you've had abusive trauma in your past that you are still trying to come to terms with, then what you are going through now with regards to these flashbacks, is completely normal given your experience.
I know that this is a small comfort when you are having these sorts of problems and cant endure the touch of someone that you love and trust because you are plagued by anxiety and flashbacks, but unfortunately, flashbacks of this sort are very common for survivors of abuse.
I'm not sure what 'OH' stands for, but if you are in a loving, trusting relationship with a person who understands what you are going through, then that at least that is the best sort of environment for you to work on these difficulties that you have with touch.
A supportive partner who respects your wishes and only wants the best for you, can take things slow and allow the touch to progress at your pace and only when you are comfortable with it.
I know that a big problem for me is when I am hugged or approached by someone by surprise and I'm not ready for it - that can often trigger a flashback or panic attack for me - but having a close friend or supportive partner who knows about the problems a person faces, allows for communication and understanding, and the other person can adapt their behaviour to meet your needs.
I wish you all the best with this monkey!
Take care xxx
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