Magical thinking and procrastination
Ever since I was a child, though more since my teenage years, I have struggled with procrastination in my studies and work. The need to avoid work has been inexplicable to me and I've spent years hating myself for it, until recently I realized I am avoiding experiencing feelings of anxiety - specifically fear of failure, criticism and resulting abandonment.
Most recently I've become aware that I engage in something I think is called magical thinking.
In the mornings I think "If I get up now, put on the coffee maker, open up my computer and immediately begin working, I will have a successful day.” But then inevitably it doesn’t go like that. I need to walk the dogs or some errand needs to be run, or something happens so I don’t complete what I call my “preparation sequence” in the order and the way it needs to be completed. And just like that, the day was ruined. The entire day. No work can be achieved that day.
It infuriates me and others around me but I just can't bring myself to work if I mess up a preparation sequence. The whole idea of working at that point just terrifies me, I simply can't even bring myself to think about it really.
I also can't discuss the fact that I plan to work - I have to tell my spouse that I am planning on "doing things" at such and such a time, so they know I am not available for other things then. If I say "I am going to work" or anything like that, I then can't work.
Since learning this is magical thinking, I've been trying to find information about it to see if there's anything that can be done about it. And I keep seeing this type of thinking is often connected to OCD, but it almost feels like I have it the wrong way round? Basically I have to complete this sequence to be able to do something, where as online I've found a lot of things about people needing to complete a sequence or ritual to stop something from happening.
Basically my question is, does this sound familiar to anyone here?
I feel like an idiot because of this... I feel like I'm just lazy and am using this as an excuse. It's just so terrifying to consider beginning to work when I've messed up the sequence that I am just so relieved when I finally give up for the day and decide to do household chores or something else useful instead, to make up for it.
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