A Story of Hope

[Comely]

So I just wanted to share something very positive, hopefully it gives others hope for their future who are currently struggling.

for background I've struggled with self-harm for going on 10 years now. I am currently 13 months self-harm free. I have very soft skin and scar very easily. So, unfortunately I have a lot of scars. I made a choice about 3 years ago to no longer hide my scars. This is when I began University and I have truly gained confidence from this choice, though there have been struggles.

So, to the good part. I am in a program in which I do a lot of school and community placements (it's based in the dramatic arts). Last year I was placed in a grade 8 class and I chose to keep my scars hidden. This year I am working with an after-school Gay-Straight Alliance at a high school. I had been struggling with whether or not I should show my scars. Well, in a reflection paper I mentioned this. I mentioned feeling ready to show my scars, but still struggling with how it would effect my role as a facilitator. My professor's response to this was:

"I think we all have scars, it takes courage to reveal them as marks of who we are and where we've been."

Well, needless to say I cried out of joy to read this comment. How beautiful to hear that from her. How much love I have for her for that comment as well. To know that there are people in this world who feel that way and are so accepting gives me hope.

So, I did wear short sleeves for any one who is wondering. One of my students came up to me and said, "Um, I saw your arms and I just want to give you a hug." So she did :)

It struck up another conversation with a different student about how her girlfriend had struggled with self-harm.

Another student shared a piece of writing in which he mentions self-harm.

I see other students give a knowing look,sometimes fearful, sometimes surprised. I'm waiting for the day they are ready to ask about my scars, or tell about their own, perhaps.

I am just happy to know that I can be there to break stigmas, and perhaps help those of the younger generation feel less abnormal.

I hope that this story gives you the hope it gave to me :)

[lonely_hope]

I think what you're doing is really good :) It's wonderful that you're so comfortable with your scars, and have been so open about it. Congratulations on being 13 months free as well! This was a lovely read :) Best of luck in everything *hugs*

[crazykat]

I am glad to hear it worked out so well for you. Well done

[silent_scars11]

Very very inspiring! I'm glad this worked out so well for you.