brain transplant?

[Darkwings44]

I've been thinking of the possibility of having a brain transplant to have a normal brain and not be mentally disabled i mean people get other body organs transplanted every day!!!!! why can't i get a new brain one that's normal and smart!!!! i really really need it because i need to be normal i hate myself for being disabled!!!!!! :( but i dont know how to get them...........

[Zurg]

Eh, sorry to be a downer but that is not possible. And even if it was then trust me when i say that people like you and i could never afford that!!!

I know it's easy for me to say but you really don't need to be normal. I am a bit unsure what even counts as normal these days…. If normal is what the majority of people at my age are doing then i say thank god i'm not normal!!!!

I know this sounds silly and boring but darkwings, as you grow older you'll be better at making peace with who you are. I spent most of my youth always thinking i was wrong because i wasn't able to do the things my friends were doing, reaching the same milestones and getting to a point in life that seemed more like a normal every day existence. I'm really not sure i'd be any happier if i had been able to do those things…. Life might have been different but not neccessarily any better.

You are who you are. And a lot of disabilities, mental ones too, can be improved if you work on them. You Got to find someone who can help you do that. Someone that can guide you and see your potential. Xx

[Iamcatbug]

I’m with zurg on this one.

Transplants are tricky procedures that need lots of aftercare and your body can still reject the new organ as it sees it as a foreign body so attacks it.

From what I understand as well there has never been a brain transplant because it is currently impossible.

[not_so_insig]

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Originally Posted by Iamcatbug

Transplants are tricky procedures that need lots of aftercare and your body can still reject the new organ as it sees it as a foreign body so attacks it.

Transplants require the person to take medication for the rest of their life. Depending on the circumstances it may require the person to make major lifestyle changes such as giving up smoking. It's not an easy route so if you're thinking "oh I won't have to take meds any more" it's simply not true. You may be better off in your current position. Also it won't fix any physical problems you may have. That's even if a brain transplant were possible like the others have said it currently isn't possible.

Eta: i agree that with time comes self acceptance. You have previously mentioned you have a therapist maybe it's something you could discuss in therapy?

[Pi.R^2]

Brain transplants don’t exist.

I’m sorry you’re feeling so negative towards yourself and your disability. Are you able to think about some other things about your brain that you can feel more positive about? What is great about your personality? What are some things that you CAN do that you feel happy that you can do?

[MunchBox]

Surely you do know that they don’t exist, surely??

[Darkwings44]

............no...............

[Darkwings44]

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Originally Posted by Zurg

Eh, sorry to be a downer but that is not possible. And even if it was then trust me when i say that people like you and i could never afford that!!!

I know it's easy for me to say but you really don't need to be normal. I am a bit unsure what even counts as normal these days…. If normal is what the majority of people at my age are doing then i say thank god i'm not normal!!!!

I know this sounds silly and boring but darkwings, as you grow older you'll be better at making peace with who you are. I spent most of my youth always thinking i was wrong because i wasn't able to do the things my friends were doing, reaching the same milestones and getting to a point in life that seemed more like a normal every day existence. I'm really not sure i'd be any happier if i had been able to do those things…. Life might have been different but not neccessarily any better.

You are who you are. And a lot of disabilities, mental ones too, can be improved if you work on them. You Got to find someone who can help you do that. Someone that can guide you and see your potential. Xx

oh.............
i was planning on making a gofundme thing to raise enough money........

i dont know how to make peace with myself.... i mean its hard because i cant do the stuff that i see others do with such ease!!

[Auror.]

Said this before and going to say it again...

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Originally Posted by Auror.

It might help for you to work on explaining what is going on for you instead of just going to big statement things like "i want to be a sex worker" or "i deserve to be dead" or "i give up." It doesn't really give people information to respond, and it doesn't help you to really express what is going on.

I'm not saying don't post. But I'm saying maybe you need to take the time to really think about what is going on for you and to write out, instead of just saying the big blanket statements like you do.

I get internalized ableism can be a bitch. I think it's something many of us struggle with. But the big dramatic statements don't really express what's going on for you or really give us much to go off of to reply in support.

[The Worst Witch]

I have to agree with Camden here. You have received some very sound adive on your other thread about how to move forward, and it feels to me like you’re ignoring it. I mean, there is of course no pressure to taje on the advice offered or even reply if you don’t want to, but big dramatic threads about your situation that some people could deem as offensive aren’t really helping anyone.

I’ll ask you again in this thread sice you didn’t reply in the other one, do you think it would be easier for you to write your mum a letter if you find it hard directly asking her what would need to change for you to return home? Currently, I feel this is the best way forward as once your mum feels confident you can look after yourself, she’s much more likely to be open to the suggestion of college etc.

[Pomegranate]

DarkWings, perhaps working on understanding/labelling the thoughts and feelings that are leading to these statements might be something that you could work on in therapy? Being able to communicate the thoughts and emotions might be a good place to start and help you communicate your wants with your Mum, when you feel the time is right. Do the group home or your therapist ask you to use any charts or anything to express yourself?

[not_so_insig]

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Originally Posted by The Worst Witch

I’ll ask you again in this thread sice you didn’t reply in the other one, do you think it would be easier for you to write your mum a letter if you find it hard directly asking her what would need to change for you to return home? Currently, I feel this is the best way forward as once your mum feels confident you can look after yourself, she’s much more likely to be open to the suggestion of college etc.

Or if your mom doesn't want to be your carer if you lived at home (she may have built a life for herself or gotten used to someone else caring for you whilst living at the group home) as not everyone is built for being a carer, then see my previous suggestion for seeing if you can live in a halfway house if they exist in your country/state. That way if you know what needs to change from your mom's pov then you can work on that. If you know what needs to change long term for you to get out of the group home then you can work with the staff/your therapist in order to achieve it.

[Darkwings44]

ok... i tried to talk to my mom on saturday but she was busy and had to go before i had the chance to talk to her about it..........