Last week a girl I know told me about her anorexia. I'm really grateful she was able to speak about it and I'd like to be able to support her but I can't help but feel super triggered.
I've had bulimia since 2010 and other ed-related habits since 2007. I'm not ready to talk about this to anyone I know irl yet.
Since finding out I can't stop thinking about it and comparing myself to her, wondering what she eats or how much she exercises, what her BMI is, etc etc... basically feeling really competitive.
I've had urges to self-harm and restrict, and I feel like a failure for not having the same routine as I did when I was at my worst. At the same time I feel like a bad friend to her for being so weird about the whole thing. She doesn't seem ready for recovery and I'm not sure whether or not I am, so I'm worried that if we did end up talking about it more we could be a bad influence on each other.
I've asked her how she's doing since and she hasn't seemed to want to talk about it again, but I'd like to be able to be there for her if she needs anything. English isn't her first language and she's not totally fluent, so communicating about sensitive topics can be tricky, too. There's also the typical "how do I help them?" kind of thing - I noticed yesterday that she has self harmed for the first time since I've known her (or at least, in a more visible place and quite a large amount). I'm really concerned about her but don't want to put pressure on her.
Has anyone had anything like this happen to them, or does anyone have any idea or tips about how to deal with this?
(PS hey! I'm a new member and this is my first post so let me know if I've done anything wrong or need to change/add anything!)
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