general life update

[jaythejester]

I haven't been active on here in probably close to a month. there were a lot of things that happened. I was doing crew work for a play with my high school, and during performance week I was living with my friend Sammy for about 4 days. his family was out of state, mine was out of town, and neither of us are very stable when we're by ourselves. he smokes a lot, I mean a lot. when his mom got back into town she found one of his carts and was furious. the way his mom yelled at him almost made me call CPS. his mom called his dad (who lives several states away) and he had to leave. he's with his dad now, and his dad is actually a good person and a decent parent. I'm trying to support him as best as I can, he knows he can always talk to me, but otherwise, he's just pretending everything is normal again. I don't really know what to do, one of my best friends was just ripped away from me and he's pretending everything is fine. any advice helps, I feel completely lost here.

[Isoverity]

Life is like a hurricane that swirls and sucks everyone in.
Struggling with the winds does nothing and even makes things worse.
The discovery to be made is that the eye of the storm is calm and inside you.

Are the things and people in your life an extension of you or you of them?
Nothing is that damaging, painful if you are centered in yourself first.
Don't make people and things too important.
I know that sounds trite, but if done properly you find places inside that you couldn't see under the commotion.

Then life gets kinda zen - the good things are good and the bad things provide benefit - there's no such thing as permanent loss/despair.
If you know you're lost you're not that lost.
Many people are lost and don't know it.

Personally I learned to meditate and bad habits just fell away.
Quitting a habit usually leaves an emptiness but when you learn skill of stepping back a new positive flow comes in.
But all that has to follow an attitude change where putting honest awareness first.

Do you love people or do you love how they make you feel?
When its the latter people always exist as a ball on other people's chains.
Don't be upset or angry with flaws, bad habits, weaknesses etc.
Most of these are acquired and not original to you.
When you just notice and watch them they start to break-up
The universe steps in to smooth out what you cant when you stop trying.
I know that's all vague but it pays to be aware that life has good surprises as well as the bad ones we all know.


Start to cultivate living as a philosophical type - let anger and resentment go because they are the glue that keep problems sticky.
Physical problems can recede when the toxicity is reduced.
Keep a lighthearted attitude and despair cant penetrate

[Auror.]

we can't really offer advice to your friend. and unfortunately it's hard when people you care about are struggling and there's nothing you can really do. think all you can really do is be there for them, and accept that if they say everything is fine, then they don't want to talk about it. but you can make sure they know if they do want to talk or want support, you will be there for them. but you can't force people to change or talk about things if they don't want to.

best thing you can do is work on taking care of your own needs as well so that if they do feel able to come to you for support, you are in as good of place as possible to offer it.

[jaythejester]

thats true. i really appreciate it.