I have a bad feeling about my friend's boyfriend.

[Stage Star]

One of my best friends is head over heels in love. And of course I'm happy for her. But the guy makes me super uncomfortable.

I've only met him a couple of times and never for longer than a quick few minutes, but still, whenever I see him I just get a really bad feeling. It's weird, like a sixth sense. Whenever my friend posts stuff about him on facebook I start getting nervous, like physically anxious.

I can't stand it when she talks about him.

I know this isn't a weird jealously thing or anything because plenty of my other friends have boyfriends and I think they're all awesome!

This dude just doesn't seem right to me, even though to talk to on the outside he seems like a perfectly decent bloke.

Am I the only one who gets bad feelings about people for no reason at all??

[Emmabob.]

I have no advice, I just want to say if you've got a funny feeling, you're probably right with it. have you tried speaking to your friend about it at all? x

[griddlebone]

I get this allll the time and Im right 98% of the time.

What I have learnt is to not say anything, people don't want to hear it and it will be you that ends up getting hurt. You can kind of tune out when she talks about him if it makes you that anxious.

[Stage Star]

No if I talk to her about it, I'm likely to lose her. I suppose I just have to put up with him and then be there for her if/when he turns out to be the d**khead I reckon he is.

[staceyrawrcakes]

I get it all the time, even just with random people I don't know in town when I walk past them.
I probably wouldn't say anything to her though, she won't want to listen if she really likes him.
I'd trust your instincts though, they're usually right.

[Soviette]

Normally I would say "trust your instincts" - But from what you've written, there's seemingly actually no evidence or reason that he's someone to be cautious of. Like usually there's a slight reason you would get nervous around like that, because of something they say or their behaviour (like making a pass at you or whatever)

Maybe it's a subconscious thing - you don't like the way he looks, or his personality, or whatever. You might just simply dislike him...

My own opinion is that you should probably keep it to yourself, as telling your friend this would probably only cause an argument, especially as you can't substantiate why, but keep an eye on her, and try to find out why he makes you feel so uncomfortable.

[Stage Star]

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Originally Posted by Nexus

Normally I would say "trust your instincts" - But from what you've written, there's seemingly actually no evidence or reason that he's someone to be cautious of. Like usually there's a slight reason you would get nervous around like that, because of something they say or their behaviour (like making a pass at you or whatever)

I think I do have a reason. He cheated on his previous girlfriend with my friend, meaning that he's capable of being 'that' sort of person.

But you're right, I can't say anything to her and it would be completely unfair of me to judge him outright without having got to know him. It's just a sixth sense, you know?

[-Asphyxia-]

.I do agree with Nexus to some degree. It's a is good to go with your "gut instinct" and intuition, because they never lie. Perhaps you can observe him for a bit and try to pinpoint what bothers you about him. (Sorry, I'm kind of re-wording Nexus to some degree).

Not all people are bad, but if you get a questioning feeling in your gut at any point...Well...Your instincts are probably correc