as we've all noticed and commented about, Vets feels a bit like its fading away.
the same people have been around here for years but life changes and people move on and whatnot. so if Vets is going to stay alive, we need some of the newer people to step up, like us oldies did "back in the day".
PM someone from vets and strike up a convo. if you read a thread and think you can help, do so.
there are few left of the original Vets, and it has to be passed down to the newer generation arriving. we older vets, (and by older, i really just mean how long we've been on RYL) will still be around but i think we get burned out after all these years.
SO, i challenge all our newer Vets to take a leap, take a lead, and bring Vets back to a place where we can all feel comfy and loved.
Spose I will - I was only a young wan when I joined RYL but lately I find myself bombarded with sugar coated responses when what I really need is a straight answer - I think Im becoming a vet!! *waves*
I’m really sorry, I know this may upset some people but… I haven’t said anything on these threads even though I’ve really wanted to… I write them to myself and it never sounds right so I never post.
This whole ‘old Vets rocked, new Vets sucks’ campaign is really horrible. Maybe I’m alone here, but I’ve been here for about a year and I’ve not experienced this Vets Utopia that people are always on about, a wonderland flowing with love, sympathy, laughter and knob-jokes. So I can only conclude that I’m one of the newbies (still.) And I try to post responses when I can. But being a Vet, I have a job and a life n stuff and don’t have much time on here (given that I type at a snail’s pace). I thought that was okay here. But every time I read one of these threads, I feel kicked-in-the-nuts guilty that I’m not doing enough and that somehow I’m destroying the place. And I really think this will put newcomers off more than it’ll encourage them. Read these threads from the point of view of a newcomer – it sounds like ‘do this, and do it LOTS or you’re not going to fit in with our group.’
But sure, this could be purely my own take on things – and I don’t really trust my own opinion – but I’ve wanted to say something for ages and… now I have. So tell me I’m wrong, flame, whatever. I’m sorry.
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Катится, катится голубой вагон!
i was just trying to encourage some newer people to post a little more so we can get to know you like we know each other. please dont think that you HAVE to do anything. you can go at your own pace, or lurk. no pressure. i just thought some folks would respond. i never meant to be hurtful or make anyone feel guilty.
Sefka, i'm not on much. I post only a few responses to people I can be completely honest with and no one else because I don't do sugar coated responses anymore becasue they... well they smack of almost being dishonest. Why ask for advice if you don't really want to hear it. But yeah. Even when vets was a busy and bustling place there was still similar problems as there are now, just more people so the balance swung the other way. Do what you're comfy with. :)
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Sorry, didn't mean to get so defensive. And it wasn't a response to only this thread, Rachael, please there's no need to apologise.
I do really like Vets, I was really happy to find an SH forum for older people (having left a different forum as it was full of hysterical teenagers.) I'm just a bit socially inept - and, maybe like Jessiwuzzle, not great an doling out generic sympathy.
But I'm sure I'll be around for a while.
Take care,
Sarah
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Каждому, каждому в лучшее верится,
Катится, катится голубой вагон!
Why ask for advice if you don't really want to hear it.
From a clinical perspective, lots of reasons. The most general and overly simplistic being that what you actually want to ask for is more unconditional sympathy but only feel comfortable asking for it as advice...
Sorry for jumping in totally off topic like that... I've just kind of been lurking lately (not in vets really, but RYL in general), and this thread happened to catch my eye, and when I read that particular comment, having spent way too much time lately thinking about various aspects of clinical psychology, it immediate caught my attention as something I had to stop and think about. Especially because it's something I encounter quite a bit (in real life, not just on RYL), and it relates to a paper I'm working on for school, and (probably most importantly) it also relates to something I've been trying to understand for probably going on 8 years now trying to fully understand something about someone I went to summer camp with as a kid...
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Hi,
I'd love to be a bit more involved in vets but I get a little scared. I'll try and I'd be happy to try to help if I can although quite often I feel like I don't have anything useful to say.
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