-"Well I don't like it when people cut."
Friend replying to me saying that I didn't like seeing him sick.
-"No, I haven't ever considered self-harm because I'm not a wuss like you."
Same friend when I asked if he'd ever thought about cutting or self-harm.
-"Dear child! Please don't cut yourself. In 5-10 years time when you want to be pretty, you'll have these ugly scars on your wrist."
Mum upon seeing my cuts. It made me feel as if she thought I was too ugly to even consider trying to look pretty right now.
-"Oh good, I thought you were all emo and stupid and cut yourself."
Random guy in my class after seeing three cuts on my wrist.
I know this isnt self harm, but it really upset me.
"do you know how selfish you are being? eating all that food and throwing it back up when there are children in Africa starving??"
Thanks, like i don't feel guilty enough already.
There's a thread like this in the Eating Disorder Support Forum thing. Not to be mean or anything. Cause I just realised how bitchy I sounded.
A girl was upset yesterday and i asked her whats up and she said that she wants to cut herself i asked her why and she replied 'because it seems fun and everyone seems to be doing it' she doesnt know that i do it but that really annoyed me.
Well most people don't know that I used to cut ( I havent in 2 years), and I really am just starting to open up about it.... but all the time I hear people say that cutters just want attention, that they are all emo, that they are stupid and need to suck it up... and from people that do know I cut, " oh your scars are going to be so ugly on your skinny body at the beach!"..... smdh!
(when mum was teaching me to play flute and my sleeve slipped down slightly)
Mum: What's that on your hand? Have you been hurting yourself?
Me: No, it's a burn from the oven (it wasn't)
Mum: *with a huge burst of anger* Well, don't, please!
(right, if it were only that simple)
(in primary school when a boy saw my cuts)
Boy: Ew, have you been emo-ing yourself?!
Nurse in A&E coming to stitch me up after I had to speak to the mental health liaison team: Hi, Eleanor. :) Are you feeling a bit better?
(yes, because being spoken to has automatically reversed the mental anguish I went through to end up here today) :s
That last one was said with good intentions but I thought it was a little dumb.
Oh, and also what other people have said about wounds not being that bad. Once had a nurse say behind my back to another one "Oh, yeah I don't think it needs stitches, we'll just steri strip it" and it makes me think, well, fine, I didn't cut deep enough, I will next time, then.
When I trained, you would not believe what crap came out of some trainee counsellors mouths even at the end of the 3 years!!
*shakes head* I swear she tries to make out she knows everything and she can suss anyone out. She thinks she knows exactly what I'm feeling and exactly why and exactly how I can cope with it. I just feel like slapping her sometimes. She's clueless. Although some people evidently find her a good counsellor otherwise they wouldn't keep seeing her...each to their own, I guess...
I remember a few years ago I started a job at a new shop, a few weeks later they hired another new person. We were sitting outside on our break and it was just waaayyy too hot to keep my long-sleeved shirt on. I thought to myself I would just take it off then cross my arms so he couldn't see my wrists/ forearms... as soon as my sweater came up over my head he saw the scars. His eyes bulged out and he just yelled "holy ****!!!" Wow. Thanks. I didn't stay at that job for very long.
My aunt said to me- Why you are cutting yourself?! Why on yours arms?! Everybody will see ! And they will think-what a freak! If you have to do this choose legs. at least nobody will see!
-.-
They can't understand- I don't care if sb will see. I don't care what ppl think about me if they saw my scars. Simple
Pierdole. Kurwa.
Im second House MD.Problem?Ask me.
My best friend came out with a corker yesterday. I've only just told her about my SI, and I know she means well but she doesn't really get it. Anyway, we were talking about going to the GP and she asked if I'd ever had blood taken, because she's had it done loads of times. She then went on to describe the process in intimate detail, talking very graphically about how the blood looked and felt and moved... while I'm sat there going
When I pointed out that it was a bit inappropriate, she said that she'd been trying to distract me from my problems by talking about something different.
"You're too smart to do that to yourself"
I'm smart, yes, but that has nothing to do with it!
"Why? Its not like your life sucks that bad"
Okay, so I am kind of spoiled/privileged, I guess you could say.... but that doesn't mean everything is perfect...
My ex said this one a lot: "Don't you care about me? If you did you would stop"
Also from my ex: "If you ever do it again, I will leave you."
Also, I hate it when people casually say "Ugh! I'm going to go slit my wrists" just because something small happens like getting a bad grade on an exam
Out of interest, what does everyone think IS an appropriate comment to make to someone who self harms? x
I think that letting the person harming themselves know that you're still their friend and want to support them is ideal (which I guess goes beyond appropriate, haha). Acknowledging that there is a reason they are doing it and that things clearly aren't going great is also nice. I guess just expressing some understanding overall is appropriate.
Out of interest, what does everyone think IS an appropriate comment to make to someone who self harms? x
Kind of hard to say, I think everyone has their own kind of definitions of what would be appropriate or not. Something that may really offend me may not offend someone else and vice versa...
"Some people get by, with a little understanding. Some people get by, with a whole lot more."
