Starting conversations

[Northerngames]

I am a very confident person in several aspects. I am a great public speaker and writer. But lately i have been having this problem; starting conversations. I know, sounds like shiet, but oh well.

I would always have a hard time trying to find a topic to talk about and i would always go for the generic topics. I would like to counter this problem since I have a life goal to have my personality fit in with my interests.

A bit of background from me; I am more of a loner, with friends here and there, and i usually keep to myself and allow few people to see my problems. Since my personality ain't 'done' yet, i always borrow a few here and there. It sounds nice and all, but I really hate it. Since as a speaker, I always go for originality.

Any suggestions to counter this problem?

[Unbreakable.]

What is that bothers you about starting a conversation with a generic topic?
Most people do that.

[Northerngames]

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Originally Posted by La araña discoteca

What is that bothers you about starting a conversation with a generic topic?
Most people do that.

It is like the topic (for example); 'how is your day?' is so overused and boring. Leading many of my convos to an awkward or boring outcome

[whirlpools]

Conversation is an art, and most people are surprisingly rubbish at it.
I've wasted a lot of money and time looking for conversation starters, knowing that there's no way in hell I'm going to start a conversation with someone by asking them about their best ever memory.
It'd be great if such topics didn't sound so contrived but the reality is that most conversation, especially with 'new people', is generic filler. Really, there are very few widely accepted social ice-breakers other than a comment on the immediate environment/mutual acquaintances.
It's fairly uninspired but it makes people more comfortable which is very relevant in expanding social circles.
So, be comfy but boring, or creative but weird, or just accept yourself for who you are.