Graphic - just want to give up

[Phoenix Of Destiny]

So today i message my tattooist about adding more to my lower back and he responded with "im not really comfortable tattooing near your ass specially with you being a chick with a dick" i feel like so devastated and like im nothing but a freak. ill never be accepted for the woman i feel like inside its enough to make me just give up and im having all kinds of bad thoughts. i thought he be understanding since most people in the tattoo industry are pretty laid back..

i feel complely drained and ashamed of what i am

[Unbreakable.]

Quite frankly, HE is the one who needs to feel ashamed of himself. I'm appalled by his attitude and the words he uses to express it. Is there anywhere you could officially complain to because of the discrimination?

Don't let him get to you, though I know that's easier said than done.
You're okay just the way you are and you're not doing anything wrong or shameful.
Hope you feel better soon.

[Phoenix Of Destiny]

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Originally Posted by Alpha Bitch Reloaded

Quite frankly, HE is the one who needs to feel ashamed of himself. I'm appalled by his attitude and the words he uses to express it. Is there anywhere you could officially complain to because of the discrimination?

Don't let him get to you, though I know that's easier said than done.
You're okay just the way you are and you're not doing anything wrong or shameful.
Hope you feel better soon.

hes the co owner of the shop so nothing i can really say.. i told him cause of his treatment im gonna travel 45mins away to go to a much better shop where i already talked to the staff and they said they treat all customers with respect.

[LegoGirl]

His attitude is disgusting. You had a lucky escape in my option. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience but try not to let that make you think everyone is like that. Lost of other people are far more respectful and less ignorant and backward.

[Hummingbird.]

His attitude is completely disgusting.
I volunteer for an LGBT mental health charity, would you mind telling me what shop it is and where? There are a lot of trans folk who get tattoos where I work and I need to make sure that shop is blacklisted. If you don't want to post it on here, feel free to PM me.
Don't listen to this fuckwad for one more moment. Genitals do not define your gender, how you identify defines your gender and nothing more. x

[Phoenix Of Destiny]

welp i got a message from him on fb after i contacted his coworker asking him if hed be willing to work on it and if he wasnt i was gonna find another shop. so i got message him telling me to come in and we can talk design so i think he realizes hes lost a repeat customer. i mean i have about 2800 in tattoos and about 1000 was spent with him and he knows im wanting to work on filling in my back...

but now im thinking id be better of finding someone who will treat me good

[Phoenix Of Destiny]

so i really need someone to talk to got called a chick with a dick today and really hurt me. wish people would understand coming out was the hardest choice i ever made

[strangecharm]

That is a horrible thing to have happen! Some people are just downright closed minded and bigoted. You could report them to the authorities, post bad reviews about how you were treated in a trans-friendly space or just plain never go there again. The thing about going to see the other co-owner is that you are still putting money into that bigot's pocket and they will never learn anything that way. People don't seem to see how their words and apparent "discomfort" affect other people, especially those in a vulnerable position.

Coming out shouldn't ever make you feel ashamed and it is an incredibly brave thing to have done! Even if most people don't understand and I don't know you particularly well, I am proud of you for coming out and being true to who you are.

Don't let the bastards get you down!