ugh sexuality. so frustrating because i always feel like i HAVE to label myself because other people are so freaking focused on your label as if they define you as a person. it's exhausting.
so my entire life i thought i was straight. because don't we all grow up in this effed up way that we are to believe that man and woman are the ideal? and there is nothing wrong with that but throughout my teens i have always kinda liked girls in one way or another. like i have been attracted to girls in a way i wasn't attracted to guys. it's so weird i dont even know how to explain it.
but only recently i realized i aslo like girls. but in a different way. i often like men because of their physical appareance. i love their body shape and short hair and their strong arms when they hug you. and i am attracted to men. but then i also like girls. it's usually not a physical attraction at first. i usually like girls who i have known for a while and then i "fall in love" with them as a person, with their character. i love the female body but it's not what's primarely attractive about them. it's so weird i feel so dumb explaining this.
but i have never been with a woman like that. the last one i had a crush on was straight and she made that clear. but i can see myself having a girlfriend just like i can see myself having a boyfriend.
as of right now i have come out to maybe three people? it's somethng i don't feel like explaining to people until it becomes necessary. i feel like people are so unaccepting of bisexuals, like its somehow the worst you could be? you kow, straight they understand and gay the (sometimes) understand but bisexual? i mean how can you NOT choose? like it's so easy to just like one gender. I love people and I fall in love with people's character not their gender.
have any of you not come out to your family and friends because you feel like it's no necessary until they HAVE to know? like i would never tell my family i am bisexual until i actually have a girlfriend. because i feel like they would just shrug it off and think i am crazy. ugh :/ why does this even need to be something someone has to explain???
I can't speak from experience but I sense your frustration and I'd just like to say that at the end of the day, I wouldn't overly worry yourself about trying to justify yourself to anyone. The people who really love you for who you are do so irrespective of sexuality, I wouldn't think there's a rush to explain anything to anyone if you're not comfortable with it.
^ thank you for those words, they mean a lot. Sometimes I think I owe them an explanation and then agai I am 'NO EFF THEM THIS IS MY LIFE' and I am just glad for what you said (: there will be a time for everything and right now I am happy I figured it out for myself.
Is anyone here? I'm kinda wanting/needing to speak with someone with experience with partners of MtF. or if you could point me in the right direction....please...
Okay. That did not come out right... I love a girl. She very recently told me she was PHYSICALLY a man. I know her as a girl and i treat her as a girl, and i love her as a girl.... just really confused right now....
^ i have no experience with this but i imagine that to be confusing. have you talked to her about how you feel?
ultimately you have to kow how you feel about her? does it bother you that she is physically a man or not? she probably wants to be recognized as a girl too if she decided to look and act the way she does so she probably loves you for aknowledging ad loving that part of her. this situation is probably just as difficult for her. maybe you can talk to her and you can figure things out. i hope it works out (:
being a mysogynist i have sworn never to have any relationship with a women, only if work related, but even that is difficult to even speak to a girl.
so you might guess im gay? nuh-uh nope, i cant imagine being with anybody, pouring my heart out? pfff, no thank you, i would much rather live rest of me days in solitude and as soon as i leave this piss hole country and head to (prefferably) England i will live completely in solitude without ANY relationships, the day to day stuff with people will be "pass that thing" or "lift that car".
so in conclusion, people are too depended on other people and thats from my point of view is really sad and pathetic
I don't really know if I like girls or if I like guys I mean I do fall I love with guys but like sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be her girlfriend or what she looks like when undressed is this normal
It's normal to be curious in my opinion. I dated a couple guys and met this girl and one thing led to another and next thing you know we've been in a relationship for almost 4 years. So follow your heart and your gut. No one can tell another person what they are or are not when it comes to this.
And I'm pulling for you to push through this feeling
And with a little time that should do the healin'
And by tomorrow you may even feel so good that you're willing
To forgive them even after all that s*** you been put through
This feeling of resilience is building and the flames are burning
Quick as fire would through this building, you're sealed in
But you're fireproof, flame retardant; you withstood it.
Eminem- Beautiful Pain
I think people are going to judge you whether you're straight, bi, gay, white, black, male, female, transgendered, ect. You name it and someone will find a reason to be judgemental. You have to live your life so you're happy because 1) it's yours not theirs and 2) you only get one shot.
And I'm pulling for you to push through this feeling
And with a little time that should do the healin'
And by tomorrow you may even feel so good that you're willing
To forgive them even after all that s*** you been put through
This feeling of resilience is building and the flames are burning
Quick as fire would through this building, you're sealed in
But you're fireproof, flame retardant; you withstood it.
Eminem- Beautiful Pain
I refused to come out as trans* when I was 15 ish (when I first realised I am trans*) because I was terrified of being anymore different than I already was, I was the pupil in school pretty much everyone knew because I was the freak of the school. forcing myself to stay living as female for an extra 4 years only added more stress and hell to my life. I am now out and proud about being a trans man, yes it took a while to get to that stage, but I'm there, but those 4 extra years have added a lot of stress.
what I am trying to say is that being different doesn't matter, being yourself is what is important, be you, be in relationships with the people you want to be with. bcause Alleexx12 is right you only get one life, so make it count as your life, don't waste years pretending to be someone you are not. There is a great quote which says 'be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind'
"Never be a spectator of unfairness or studpidity. The grave will supply plenty of time for silence." Christopher Hitchens
'When words fail, music speaks'
I am transsexual and homoromantic and proud to be.
Just I'm already different enough I don't want to be even more different
I know the feeling. I remember once giving my old therapist a whole list of reasons why Im a freak (or thought i was) and she countered each one. For sexuality she said "everyone has a sexual orientation" which is true. Like who is anyone to say yours is "wrong" I think whatever makes you happy can't possibly be wrong. And still im a hypocrite, why is it so easy to say that for someone else, but not me?
As for me, lately I've gone off girls, I just don't know, I can be attracted but as for anything else. I really just want to date a (male) cross dresser, to get the best of both worlds, so to speak. But still a man's...you know. But how do I go about finding that? I've tried online but come up blank.
Then again, it wouldn't matter who I liked, they'd still never like me back. And im not saying I couldn't fall in love with a girl tomorrow, cos you can never know. Just usually it ends up badly, for everyone. Easier to stick to my rockstar crush...even though I'm too old.
