living alone / being alone

[Ballerina123]

I live alone. Have no job. Do no volunteer work and have one friend in the are who will be moving away in 2 weeks. My parents live hundreds of miles away and they are moving abroad soon.

I literally spend my days in the house staring and the 4 walls getting really depressed.

I'm a social person and benifits form social interaction daily. It helps my mood.

Is anyone else in this situation? What do you do to keep going?

I have some potential study/volunteer work coming up but that's not for a while. I'm starting to get scared of being alone.

[Angelina]

Maybe you could look for another volunteer role? Do-it.org is good there's a ton of stuff on there.

It's easy to let this situation spiral but it won't fix itself. You have to be proactive and make the changes yourself.

You do have friends though. They might not live in walking distance but that is the nature of living in London. Everyone lives ages away so you have to travel and be organised about meeting.

You used to go to groups too: when yours not IP you can go there again.

I think it's also good though when you live alone to learn to enjoy your own company. Maybe take up a hobby you like for yourself like I mentioned before: swimming, running, knitting, reading. Give yourself a project or goal (realistic) and that can positively occupy some of your time.

No one else can change this for you.

X

[Laura2.0]

Hi,
when I wasn't having friends and I got depressed it was hard for me to do something other than the work I had to do as an Au Pair. So eventually I told myself that sitting in my room alone wont help and I didn't have friends. So I set myself a goal: to do 1 thing at a day other than work. So one day I did my laundry, the next day I went to buy a new shirt and the day after that I went to the movie theater. I failed at making friends, but I didn't know how to get a hobby there (because I was in a different country). It was just 10 weeks or so before I returned home so I didn't make friends, because I knew the friendship wouldn't last.
I went to a horse show though and I talked to the actors after the show and they invited me to come to a few training sessions. that was awesome! They did trick riding and tought me some of the tricks.

I know it is super hard to get yourself up and do something when you don't know the people who you are probably going to meet. But maybe you can try to remember that if there are new people, then they are new potential friends. They are strangers to you now, but once you get to know them better they might even become friends.

[eva<3]

Im also in the same boat as you :/ Im living with my boyfriend now and hes been so busy with work and school Im stuck at the house. I dont drive, I dont have any friends and lately Ive been feeling really isolated. Its really been bothering me but I think Laura has a point, to try and do something new each day, even if its little may help. Ive been workingout and currently 2 weeks into it. but somehow its not enough so I need to find something else. Ive been trying to get my boyfriend to take me to the library to get some books but hes never got any time. Its good to know that Im not the only one feeling like this though. Just remember you arnt alone and if you ever need to talk to anyone Id be happy to listen :) stay positive Ballerina

[I am a cat]

I dont have a lot to say.
Other than, I know what its like.
Im the same, and its pretty unbearable.