I am seriously considering leaving RYL as I feel I am being ignored by so many people that I usually speak to and dont feel like I am getting much support and feel like no one here gives ****.
Have you ever sat there and wondered ‘why am I still here? I don’t even want to be here. I haven’t wanted to be here for so long. What’s keeping me here?’ And then you realize the answer is nothing. And that scares you even more than the fact that you don’t want to be here anymore.
I have to say that I can relate to that to a certain extent.
I have often felt like asking for support on here doesn't get me anywhere and that I never get more than a handful of replies when I make a thread.
What I did with feeling like that was to try and reflect on how I am asking for support and what it is that might make it hard for people to have something to say.
I think I have come to my own conclusions with why that is the case. So I would encourage you to think about the way you ask for support and what might be the reasons for people to find it hard to reply. Looking around the boards I find that in most cases lack of replies has more to do with how people reach out than with people not wanting to give support. That does not mean that people are doing it wrong, just sometimes when I read a thread I have a hard time figuring out what kind of support a member wants or what would actually be helpful for them.
You say you feel ignored by people that used to talk to you, so clearly those people care and have given support at some point. Maybe look into what has changed and what might have caused this. Also keep in mind that feeling ignored doesn't mean that you are actually ignored by them. I can relate very much though to feeling ignored and understand how difficult it can be.
One thing that can be helpful is to take a step back from things for a bit i.e. taking a break for a few days or weeks to decide for yourself what you can do to make it easier for people to give you the support that you need.
If you just find RYL is not the place for you to be and that not getting the kind and amount of support that you need it might be worth looking into other ways to get your needs met and coming on here less often or not at all.
I don't know anything about your situation or how you post or the members you used to talk to. This is just some general advice based on what I found helpful for myself.
I mean like, I know that people respond but like... whenever Ive spoken to certian people on here that I speak to theyve just been not replying to what Ive been saying
Have you ever sat there and wondered ‘why am I still here? I don’t even want to be here. I haven’t wanted to be here for so long. What’s keeping me here?’ And then you realize the answer is nothing. And that scares you even more than the fact that you don’t want to be here anymore.
Okay thanks Miss and I have not come on here recently as Ive just aboutgiven up on here and have had **** going on in life
Have you ever sat there and wondered ‘why am I still here? I don’t even want to be here. I haven’t wanted to be here for so long. What’s keeping me here?’ And then you realize the answer is nothing. And that scares you even more than the fact that you don’t want to be here anymore.
why? If i relapse in self harm they get dissapointed and with a girl whom I like whom asked me out and mum said shes to old for me, mumll get grumpy if I talk to her about the girl whom asked me out. I havnt even given the girl an answer to her asking me out.
Have you ever sat there and wondered ‘why am I still here? I don’t even want to be here. I haven’t wanted to be here for so long. What’s keeping me here?’ And then you realize the answer is nothing. And that scares you even more than the fact that you don’t want to be here anymore.
But where?? My family wont be much help and ive only got two more sessions with my sexual abuse counsellor.
Have you ever sat there and wondered ‘why am I still here? I don’t even want to be here. I haven’t wanted to be here for so long. What’s keeping me here?’ And then you realize the answer is nothing. And that scares you even more than the fact that you don’t want to be here anymore.
Have you ever sat there and wondered ‘why am I still here? I don’t even want to be here. I haven’t wanted to be here for so long. What’s keeping me here?’ And then you realize the answer is nothing. And that scares you even more than the fact that you don’t want to be here anymore.
All you have to do is to go there and let your doctor know you struggle and need support. Then they should take it from there and ask a few questions to assess your needs.
Maybe you can ask the counselor to write you up a note for your doctor so they know what kind of support was provided so far and if it helped you.
Have you ever sat there and wondered ‘why am I still here? I don’t even want to be here. I haven’t wanted to be here for so long. What’s keeping me here?’ And then you realize the answer is nothing. And that scares you even more than the fact that you don’t want to be here anymore.
Also some parts of the board are slow moving so if you have posted there it's nothing personal or people don't want to help, it's just the way RYL works.
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Also I noticed that you are in New Zealand. The majority if people here are based in the UK so if you are posting at a time when most people in the UK are asleep then it may appear that people are ignoring you.
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"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson "I hear those voices that will not be drowned" Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
I'm sorry that you're not getting the support you need, some people just tend to be busy or maybe cant attribute much to help you so they just ignore the thread, I've done that from time to time on occasion
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I hope your gp can help you, also do speak to your counsellor As well I know they are finishing soon, but sometimes they can recommend someone else or refer you on if you still have needs.
With regards to replies it can be hard. I'm a member of a few forums and sometimes no one will reply, which can hurt but then I've realised it could be I've posted in the wrong place, or my need is very specific. I once started a totally innocent thread on another forum which ended up running into thousands and thousands of posts and I got severely flamed and in the end banned from the site - I didn't even know it was going on, it was a BBC message board and someone had posted a link to my question and within two days it had become an all out flame war, so sometimes it's better not getting replies!!
One thing I do is to look at the number of times a post has been read, I find that can be helpful to me if I've not had many replies as it shows people have read and I view that kind of like talking to them and them listening.
