Recently i've felt unable to self harm and it's really frustrating and upsetting me. I keep getting my tool out and putting it on my skin but I can't do anything with it. Sometimes I cut a little but it hurts too much to do anything more. Does anyone else ever feel like this? I know that it's quite a good thing, because of this I am nearly 3 weeks self harm free, but I don't know how else to release the tension that I am feeling. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks.
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
This is a good thing, a very good thing. It can be frustrating feeling the tension build up, but it's just a case of finding a release.
What have you tried? Have you tried the usual things like writing down how you are feeling? Drawing/painting? Or going for a jog/cycle? Or have you thought about taking up a hobby that you can turn to for a mental and physical distraction?
perhaps deep dwn you dont want to do that cut.
your mind is telling you its wat you need and want but the deep down you are fighting it.
try other methods that arent going to be harmful when the urges arrive xx
I get this sometimes. I really want to cut but I just can't.
I know how frustrating it is but remember it's a good thing in the long run.
Can you try distractions to help keep your mind off the tension you are feeling?
See I cannot feel this, not matter how you try and in the real world, there's no goodbyes.
This is exactly what I found. A month or so later I got rid of all my tools I found that sometimes I'd want to but couldn't, and sometimes I just couldn't be bothered. Is this the same sort of thing for you?
Finding a different hobby, as someone suggested, can be mentally and physically distracting, as well as being fun and providing you with a sense of achievement, which will eventually stoop you from feeling urges to self harm.
Shoving my arms in a skink full of ice and water [so's you dont get freezer burns] used to help me at one point.
Red pen, though I find black better for some reason, is also kinda helpful. I used to draw over all my scars so I could at least see them clearly, cos since they've faded I feel like thats a reason to do more.
Hey,
This is a really good thing hun, now all you have to do is find a way to release the pressure. Running works for me- maybe some other exercise? Or draw or write or dance and sing as loudly as you can! Go for a walk. You'll find what works for you I'm sure, I still find that the easiest way for me to get rid of urges/tension is to run or to sing ridiculously loudly.
Take care of yourself xx
I found that sometimes I'd want to but couldn't, and sometimes I just couldn't be bothered. Is this the same sort of thing for you?
