OK, I'm starting to come to terms wih my self-injury, and it's summer, and I have an opportunity to go swimming in a few days with my classmates on a field trip... should I do it, even though my scars will be exposed? I'm planning to cover them with make-up a little, but they'll still be relatively obvious. I think I'm ready... but I'm not quite sure. Should I go for it?
why not? if you are comfortable with them and you're prepared to deal with the looks/questions then it will really help your self confidence :) they are nothing to be ashamed of.
I let my scars hold me back from going swimming with some friends a few days ago. Instead I ended up getting in a car accident and straining my back and neck after some idiot rear ended the car I was in with my aunt and uncle. Point of the story: don't let your scars hold you back from doing things you really want to do. Under the distractions tab, there's a list of funny excuses that you can try if anyone really notices your scars. Also, if you can wear a light button down shirt over your swimsuit like as a cover up, that might help you. I've been doing that a lot - wearing a tank top and an open button down and have received more "oh I like that shirt! you look cute" type things as opposed to quizzical glances. The shirts also used to be my dad's which is the funnier part of it all.... Okay, I babbled enough. Good luck with your field trip! Confidence is key :)
If only you could see me yesterday, who I used to be before the change, you'd see a broken heart,you'd see the battle scars. Funny how words can't explain how good it finally feels to break the chains. I'm not what I have done. I'm what I've overcome.
If you're ready, and you feel like you can handle it, go for it. It's a big step, and it takes a lot of courage, but you sound like you're okay with it. Good luck.
oh non-believer, please believe me.
is there honestly nothing in this world
that keeps you living & breathing?
you're a ghost in your own
goddamn city.
Like everybody has said so far, it's when YOU are comfortable with it :) That's when you're ready, I hope you are, because your confidence will go sky high *hug*
Main thing is, its all of about 30 seconds between the changing room and the pool- once you're in the water, nobody can see the scars anyway. So you can wrap yourself in a towel and leave it by the poolside. But if you're happy enough, its OK not to bother with that :) I've never had anyone comment about scars, or anything, even the couple of times I went with open cuts (note: don't do this!) so go for it.
Wake me up before I change again
Remind me the story that I won't get insane
Tell me why it's always the same
Explain me the reason why I'm so much in pain.
you know, your scars a just a sign of the pain that you have experienced or still are experiencing. so you dont need to feel ashamed, but just know there will be people who wont understand your pain.
For me, i make a conscious decision to not hide, nor show my scars. i take that part out of the equation. (although if i have fresh wounds i cover them up so as not to trigger others). its been hard at times but overall beneficial. hope that helps.
