Boys & Best Friends, Advice please

[Ginger_666]

I feel so stupid posting this but I need advice.

I just found out that my best mate is interested in the guy I am kind of dating.

So, I guess I need to put a little background info in.
I met this guy, H, a few months ago and we hit it off, but more as friends. I really liked him, but the chemistry just wasn't there for me. (And I was kinda after someone else, B, though I know it is never going to happen).
Anyway, I'm not the jealous type or anything and the three of us went out drinking and my best mate, K, hooked up with H. All good, I hooked up with both of them too. I didn't think anything of it. She hasn't said much about it since then, I figured we were all friends.

But then last Friday H took me out to this amazing dance show and I don't know why but things changed for me, I saw him differently, I guess the same way he has seen me. We've been a lot closer since then, a lot closer. I was really happy.

Then at dancing tonight K says "Hurry up and get with B". Naturally I asked "why, you want H?" (we had joked about this) And she just looked at me. I asked if she was serious and she says she really likes him.

What do I do? Do I step back and let her have him? I want to but part of me says nah, I saw him first, and I want him too.

Haha, feeling like a loser but advice, please?

[makedamnsure]

Well, does he like her back? Sounds from your post that he likes you most so even if you step back there is no guarantee that he will go out with her.
As you said, you saw him first and you like him so there is no way you should have to give him up for a friend.
If she was with B would you ask her to give him up for you?

[-Asphyxia-]

That's a tough spot....In my experience, I have let friends have the guy; I'm not the drama-queen type either. However, that can be difficult...I know at the time it brought up feelings of inadequacy/insecurity for me. Like, I felt like I wasn't good enough sort of thing.

It also depends on how much you want him...you know? If your friendship with this girl is strong enough, a silly guy sure as hell won't break it up. I'd say be honest with your friend and ask her if it would bother her if you were to date him.