My best friend

scarlet fever · 13-04-2010, 05:08 AM

My best friend is not Self-injury. My Best friend since 6th grade, Alicia, is severely depressed and wants to die, sometimes. I keep on trying to support her and help, but she pushes away. She recently has picked up a pain killer and/ or sleeping pill habit, and its making everything worse. She's using her boyfriend to lean on, and he is becoming depressed and sleep deprived. He has started to try to manipulate me into telling him every bit of information I know of whats going on. She then gets mad, and feels she can't trust me. I hate this, and it makes me incredibly sad. I could stop being friends with her, but then I would loose a part of me, and I really don't want to give up on her. But I don't know what to do

Foxeh · 13-04-2010, 09:25 AM

It's great that you want to support your friend - but we have to remember to look after ourselves first. It might feel selfish, but your health and wellbeing are just as important as hers.
It's hard on you and her boyfriend to continue supporting her in this way, you need a helping hand.

Why don't you recommend that she sees her doctor or approaches a professional about all of this? At the end of the day you're going to run yourself into the ground if this carries on, and then you'd both be in a state...

Ginger_666 · 13-04-2010, 09:34 AM

Foxeh is right, as much as you want to help your friend there is only so much you can do. Maybe you could offer to go with her to a docs, or some other proffessionally, it may be less scary for her with you at her side.
Just remind her that you care about her and you want to help but you aren't equipped to do it on your own.

Look after yourself too. Good luck and hang in there